Saturday, November 29, 2008
Friday, November 28, 2008
Single oR Taken?
SYMPTOMS OF A CERTIFIED SINGLE
1. MAHILIG KUMAIN
2. PANALO ANG SOCIAL LIFE, ALAM LAHAT NG GIMIKAN AT MALL SALE
3. HAYOK SA TULOG
4. GADGET ADIK
5. SA CELPHONE, GROUP MESSAGE NG GROUP MESSAGE NG MGA QUOTES
6. NAGSMILE KAHeT ALONE
7. TUMATABA
8. PORMA TO THE MAX
9. MUKHANG HAPPY KAHIT HINDI NAMAN TALAGA
10. PALAGENG BITBIT NG BARKADA
SYMPTOMS OF CERTIFIED TAKEN
1. WALANG PERA
2. MUKHANG NGARAG LAGE
3. KURIPOT
4. BLOOMING KASI KAILNAGAN PARA HINDI IWAN
5. WALANG SOCIAL LIFE KUNDI JOWA
6. BORING KAUSAP
1. MAHILIG KUMAIN
2. PANALO ANG SOCIAL LIFE, ALAM LAHAT NG GIMIKAN AT MALL SALE
3. HAYOK SA TULOG
4. GADGET ADIK
5. SA CELPHONE, GROUP MESSAGE NG GROUP MESSAGE NG MGA QUOTES
6. NAGSMILE KAHeT ALONE
7. TUMATABA
8. PORMA TO THE MAX
9. MUKHANG HAPPY KAHIT HINDI NAMAN TALAGA
10. PALAGENG BITBIT NG BARKADA
SYMPTOMS OF CERTIFIED TAKEN
1. WALANG PERA
2. MUKHANG NGARAG LAGE
3. KURIPOT
4. BLOOMING KASI KAILNAGAN PARA HINDI IWAN
5. WALANG SOCIAL LIFE KUNDI JOWA
6. BORING KAUSAP
Starbucks Planner 2009
I was super touched this morning coz cheeky boy S0ns0n gave me this red 2009 starbucks planner...Two weeks ago I remember him asking me what color I prefer, red black or blue...I thought dat he's asking a psych question and eto na pla un... I feel a bit gloomy earlier because of some drama with one of our closest friends, thanks to cheeky he really has this way of cheering up our days... Tampo nga daw sha kase di sha samen nakasama watch ng twilight nina diz and sis geechan, eh kase nman may lagnat sha non, kung ala nman sha lagnat eh may escapade den naman sha kase freeman sha ngaun hehehe
Tenchu mucheee again cheeky!!! labshyu!!!
Tenchu mucheee again cheeky!!! labshyu!!!
Guillys wid Papi Helterbrand *kilig*
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Thanksgiving in the US which means g0odtime here in Manila. That night was definitely a blast!!! There were flabbergasted moments ^well dats how I am in the regular whenever Im within d parameters of Papi Helterbrand and Hubby Tubid^ but everything was breathtaking!
Mars AM next tym clubbing tau ha pra tau nman mag moment hehe
Mars Minnie and Mars Thania sama kau ha! Mishumucheee!!
XoXo
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
75 Things Women Should Know re RelatiOnships
1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
19. You really do have to find a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse.If he causes any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself --double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life.
44. Love is a verb ...
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable -available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.
49. If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.55. Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it, but it takes two to make it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you, You cant force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go; let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
71. Don't play games.
72. You can't make an ogre into a housewife - or husband.
73. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts. It's just not natural.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
19. You really do have to find a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse.If he causes any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself --double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life.
44. Love is a verb ...
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable -available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.
49. If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.55. Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it, but it takes two to make it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you, You cant force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go; let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
71. Don't play games.
72. You can't make an ogre into a housewife - or husband.
73. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts. It's just not natural.
Kwentong Jelly Beans
Hindi ako mahilig sa jelly beans. Pero nung dumating yung jelly beans galing sa sister ng roommate ko, naintriga ako. Isang malaking garapon ng jelly beans na siguro ay mga 1000 ang laman at may 49 flavors. Hinanap ko agad yung chocolate pudding na flavor na nakalagay sa listahan. Lahat ng kulay brown, kinuha ko. Pero hindi chocolate ang lasa ng mga jelly beans na kinain ko. May coffee, may plum, may licorice, may rootbeer, ngunit walang chocolate. Sa kakahanap ng chocolate flavor, hindi ko napapansin ang ibang 48 flavors na nasa garapon.
At na-realize ko, ikaw ang the elusive chocolate pudding flavor na jelly bean sa buhay ko.Na-obsessed ako sa lahat ng kulay brown na jelly beans. Iyong roommate ko, na-explore na yung ibang flavor. May bubble gum flavor, may pina colada, may peanut butter, may sizzling cinnamon, may caramel popcorn. Lahat yun, nasarapan sya. Ako, hindi ko pinapansin ang ibang jelly beans. Naka-tuon ang pansin ko sa brown jelly beans.Parang ikaw. Sa kakahabol sa iyo, hindi ko na napansin ang ibang lalake sa paligid ko. Masyado akong naka-focus sa yo, kaya napapalampas ko na ang mga matitinong lalake na nagbibigay interes sa akin. Parang yung ibang flavors ng jelly beans na hindi ko natikman dahil ang gusto ko talaga eh yung chocolate pudding.Iyong roommate ko, natikman na nya ang chocolate pudding na jelly bean. Ang swerte naman niya, natikman nya agad ang flavor na gusto ko. Hindi niya hinahangad, yun pa ang napunta sa kanya. Sabi niya, hindi naman daw masarap ung chocolate pudding na jelly bean. Ordinaryo lang ang lasa. Hindi tulad nung mga favorite nyang flavor. Pinatikim nya sa akin yung toasted marshmallow saka ung strawberry cheesecake, masarap naman pero, yung chocolate pudding talaga gusto ko eh. Ganon yata talaga yun. Mas gusto natin yung hindi natin nakukuha.Nung finally natikman ko ang chocolate pudding na jelly bean, napasigaw ako. At last, nakuha ko rin ang gusto ko. Pero, nung ninamnam ko ang lasa, hindi nga sya masarap. Hindi sya ganun ka fabulous. Parang ordinaryong chocolate lang na pinalambot. Pero ang saya nung feeling na finally, nakuha ko rin yun. Matapos akong mapurga sa licorice at root beer flavors.Hindi ko pa natitikman ang lahat ng 49 flavors na jelly beans sa garapon. Nangangalahati na ang laman pero chocolate pa rin ang hinahanap ko kapag binubuksan ko ang takip. Fixated pa rin ako sa mga kulay brown na beans, kahit na mas appealing ang pink, violet at blue. Madalas, ibang flavor na nakukuha ko pero kapag sinuswerte, nahahagilap ko rin ang chocolate pudding.Oo, hindi worth the aggravation ang paghahanap sa chocolate pudding. Hindi worth ang paghahabol ko sa yo. Ordinaryo ka lang naman. Marami pang hihigit sa yo. May mga blueberry o cotton candy o strawberry daiquiri flavors na lalake sa paligid ko pero hindi ko pinapansin. Pero bakit kapag kakain ako ng jelly beans, chocolate pudding pa rin ang hinahanap ko? Bakit kahit na marami naman lalake dyan, ikaw pa rin ang gusto ko? Hay, siguro dahil sa nakasanayan ko na.
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>My take on this? Cgur0 nga chocolate pudding ung hnhanap m0 plage, per0 dadating den ung tym na magsasawa and magsasawa ka den. Hndi pdeng for life eh chocolate pudding lang ang kakainin m db? *wink* hehehe
Lahat ng bagay seas0nal...Nagkata0n lang na prolonged lang ung seas0n ng ta0ng itey sa pag crave ng choc0late pudding...=)
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ISA PANG KWENTONG JELLY BEANS
Lahat tayo, may chocolate pudding flavor na jelly bean sa buhay. Iyong isang bagay na pinapangarap nating maabot ngunit sa iba't ibang kadahilanan ay sadyang mailap sa atin. Pero dahil sa ito ang inaasam natin, ginagawa natin ang lahat para makuha ito. May mga sinusuwerte, may iba naman na sumusuko na dahil sa hindi nila ito makuha. At may mga iilan na nagpupumilit pa rin, at umaasang isang araw ay makukuha din nila ito.Kung si Carl ang the elusive chocolate pudding jelly bean sa buhay ko, si AJ naman ang blueberry flavor: masarap, matamis, pero dahil laging nandiyan, hindi ko na-appreciate.I have known AJ for 13 years. My earliest memory of him was at the library, when he was trying to start a conversation. May pinakita siyang sports magazine kung saan nasa cover ang paborito kong si Jojo Lastimosa and that was how everything started.Naging groupmates kami sa Music class and we'd spend Saturdays together, practicing for our group presentations. At dahil sa lagi kaming magkasama, naging close kami sa isa't isaI remember showing him my poem collections, and there was one that he particularly liked. He was reading it aloud, and I was looking at him. He looked up, met my gaze, smiled and said, "Ayaw ug tutok sa ako, Nords, basi ma-in love ko sa imo, ligawan ta ka." I blushed, kahit na hindi ako maputi.Our literature class was watching Roxanne in the dark Audio-Visual Room one afternoon. He was beside me. He held my hand. I didn't flinch.It was the end of our junior years, and I was asking my classmates to sign my chemistry book. He scribbled, "Nords, I love you..." I laughed. He looked at me. I stopped laughing and got his book. "I love you, too" I wrote. He beamed.We were always together the beginning of our senior year. We took recess, spent lunchtime with each other and talked every chance we got. After CAT, he would wait for me, carry my bag and we'd head together to the classroom where he'd ask me to give him a massage."Mura na mu ug mag-uyab (para kayong mag-syota)," a classmate commented once. AJ put his arm around me and said, "Actually, kami na."But we were not an item. I was madly in love with Carl who was apathetic to me while AJ seemed to be falling for every beautiful girl in campus. Kilala ko lahat ng crush niya. I was even his "bridge" to a couple of them. But his attempts to win them failed at isang malaking misteryo sa akin iyun. He was smart, and good-looking, and funny, and sensitive. These girls didn't know what they were missing.In the early months of our friendship, kinukunsinti ako ni AJ sa kahibangan ko kay Carl. He'd tell me whenever Carl was outside our classroom, or he'd inform me about Carl's hereabouts. Sinasamahan pa niya ako minsan sa pang-i-stalk ko Pero si Carl ang dahilan kung bakit kami nag-away.I remember that afternoon when I was crying because I learned that Carl had a new girlfriend. AJ asked me why I was wasting my time crying over someone unworthy when I should be spending it with someone who loved me. Tinawag niya akong tanga and I stormed out of the room and didn't talk to him for weeks.During our retreat, our facilitator told us to ask forgiveness from people we hurt. I didn't know who made the move but I just saw myself face to face with him in the middle of the room. We looked at each other for a long time and then I started to cry. He pulled me to him and hugged me.Hindi ko alam kung gaano katagal kaming magkayakap pero noong gabi ng retreat, habang nakasandal ako sa dibdib niya at umiiyak, I realized that I was falling in love with him.And then he broke my heart.We were inside the empty music room, waiting for the other group members. I was listening to him play "Everything I do, I do it for you" on the keyboard. And then he stopped playing and started talking about his seatmate who was so nice to him.He said he was starting to like her. He asked, "Okay lang ba na manligaw ko sa iya, Nords?"Hindi ako nakasagot agad dahil ang totoo, gusto kong maiyak. Ilang beses na nagkuwento si AJ tungkol sa mga babaeng gusto niya pero noong araw na iyon, sobrang nasaktan ako sa narinig ko. Pero hindi ako nagpahalata. Ngumiti ako at sinabing, "Ifit's going to make you happy, then do it!" And for the first time, I secretly wished na sana ma-basted siya.We drifted apart after that incident. Laging silang magkasama noong girl na may gusto din sa kanya habang bumalik ako sa paghahabol kay Carl. We didn't see each other after our high school graduation because I studied in Manila. But when I went to Davao for a brief vacation after college, he came to see me even if it was already late at night and he arrived riding his bicycles, wearing pambahay t-shirt and shorts.Late 90s na iyun and I was working in my first job when I got an email from him, informing he would be in Manila for two weeks. He had plans of working abroad and he was completing his requirements in Manila. We went out thrice and I introduced him to my friends.It was in November 2001 when I received a text message from him. "I'm leaving for US tomorrow," the message said. I answered, "Ay, di na kita makikita uli?" His reply was a cheesy line from Aiza Seguera's songs: Pagdating ng panahon, baka ikaw rin at ako.He worked in US for two years but emails, messenger and text messages kept us together. We were chatting everyday, talking about anything and everything. We'd talk about our respective relationships, works and family. Sometimes, we would engage in a repartee of flirting and sexual innuendoes.Once, I asked him why he didn't come to see me before he left the country and he kidded something might happen to us and he wouldn't be able to go to the US.People close to us predicted that eventually, AJ and I would end up together pero hindi ko pinapansin ang sinasabi nila. Oo, AJ and I had a "moment" in high school but that was it. a moment. And high school was more than a decade ago.Minsan, we were chatting in Yahoo messenger and I was telling him about our high school reunion. Nagkuwento ako tungkol sa pagkikita namin ni Carl at kung paano ako kinilig nung hinalikan niya ako. His reply was:" Si Carl pa rin? Nords, forget him. You don't deserve him."You're right. I deserved you in high school. I deserve you now. Kung sana hindi ako nagpakatanga kay Carl, kung sana na-appreciate ko lahat ng ginawa mo, baka kasal na tayo ngayon. Baka may dalawa na tayong anak. Baka kasama mo na ako diyan sa US.Pagdating kay AJ, I will be living my life with maybe and what could have been. Hindi na mangyayari ang mga "baka" na iyun. He got married early this year.Siya iyong blueberry flavor na jelly bean. Masarap, oo. pero dumating siya ng mga panahong obsessed ako sa chocolate pudding. Kaya kahit na masarap siya, at nasiyahan ako, hindi ko pinansin. Feeling ko kasi nandiyan lang siya sa garapon. Hindi ko akalain na mauubos din pala siya. At nang ma-realize ko na gusto ko na ng blueberry sa halip na chocolate pudding, ubos na ang blueberry. Nakuha na ng iba.Siya ang blueberry flavor na jelly bean. Ang "the one who got away."
***I just f0und this interesting... Imagine nai-relate ung jelly beans sa life??? FANTABULOUS!!!
At na-realize ko, ikaw ang the elusive chocolate pudding flavor na jelly bean sa buhay ko.Na-obsessed ako sa lahat ng kulay brown na jelly beans. Iyong roommate ko, na-explore na yung ibang flavor. May bubble gum flavor, may pina colada, may peanut butter, may sizzling cinnamon, may caramel popcorn. Lahat yun, nasarapan sya. Ako, hindi ko pinapansin ang ibang jelly beans. Naka-tuon ang pansin ko sa brown jelly beans.Parang ikaw. Sa kakahabol sa iyo, hindi ko na napansin ang ibang lalake sa paligid ko. Masyado akong naka-focus sa yo, kaya napapalampas ko na ang mga matitinong lalake na nagbibigay interes sa akin. Parang yung ibang flavors ng jelly beans na hindi ko natikman dahil ang gusto ko talaga eh yung chocolate pudding.Iyong roommate ko, natikman na nya ang chocolate pudding na jelly bean. Ang swerte naman niya, natikman nya agad ang flavor na gusto ko. Hindi niya hinahangad, yun pa ang napunta sa kanya. Sabi niya, hindi naman daw masarap ung chocolate pudding na jelly bean. Ordinaryo lang ang lasa. Hindi tulad nung mga favorite nyang flavor. Pinatikim nya sa akin yung toasted marshmallow saka ung strawberry cheesecake, masarap naman pero, yung chocolate pudding talaga gusto ko eh. Ganon yata talaga yun. Mas gusto natin yung hindi natin nakukuha.Nung finally natikman ko ang chocolate pudding na jelly bean, napasigaw ako. At last, nakuha ko rin ang gusto ko. Pero, nung ninamnam ko ang lasa, hindi nga sya masarap. Hindi sya ganun ka fabulous. Parang ordinaryong chocolate lang na pinalambot. Pero ang saya nung feeling na finally, nakuha ko rin yun. Matapos akong mapurga sa licorice at root beer flavors.Hindi ko pa natitikman ang lahat ng 49 flavors na jelly beans sa garapon. Nangangalahati na ang laman pero chocolate pa rin ang hinahanap ko kapag binubuksan ko ang takip. Fixated pa rin ako sa mga kulay brown na beans, kahit na mas appealing ang pink, violet at blue. Madalas, ibang flavor na nakukuha ko pero kapag sinuswerte, nahahagilap ko rin ang chocolate pudding.Oo, hindi worth the aggravation ang paghahanap sa chocolate pudding. Hindi worth ang paghahabol ko sa yo. Ordinaryo ka lang naman. Marami pang hihigit sa yo. May mga blueberry o cotton candy o strawberry daiquiri flavors na lalake sa paligid ko pero hindi ko pinapansin. Pero bakit kapag kakain ako ng jelly beans, chocolate pudding pa rin ang hinahanap ko? Bakit kahit na marami naman lalake dyan, ikaw pa rin ang gusto ko? Hay, siguro dahil sa nakasanayan ko na.
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>My take on this? Cgur0 nga chocolate pudding ung hnhanap m0 plage, per0 dadating den ung tym na magsasawa and magsasawa ka den. Hndi pdeng for life eh chocolate pudding lang ang kakainin m db? *wink* hehehe
Lahat ng bagay seas0nal...Nagkata0n lang na prolonged lang ung seas0n ng ta0ng itey sa pag crave ng choc0late pudding...=)
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ISA PANG KWENTONG JELLY BEANS
Lahat tayo, may chocolate pudding flavor na jelly bean sa buhay. Iyong isang bagay na pinapangarap nating maabot ngunit sa iba't ibang kadahilanan ay sadyang mailap sa atin. Pero dahil sa ito ang inaasam natin, ginagawa natin ang lahat para makuha ito. May mga sinusuwerte, may iba naman na sumusuko na dahil sa hindi nila ito makuha. At may mga iilan na nagpupumilit pa rin, at umaasang isang araw ay makukuha din nila ito.Kung si Carl ang the elusive chocolate pudding jelly bean sa buhay ko, si AJ naman ang blueberry flavor: masarap, matamis, pero dahil laging nandiyan, hindi ko na-appreciate.I have known AJ for 13 years. My earliest memory of him was at the library, when he was trying to start a conversation. May pinakita siyang sports magazine kung saan nasa cover ang paborito kong si Jojo Lastimosa and that was how everything started.Naging groupmates kami sa Music class and we'd spend Saturdays together, practicing for our group presentations. At dahil sa lagi kaming magkasama, naging close kami sa isa't isaI remember showing him my poem collections, and there was one that he particularly liked. He was reading it aloud, and I was looking at him. He looked up, met my gaze, smiled and said, "Ayaw ug tutok sa ako, Nords, basi ma-in love ko sa imo, ligawan ta ka." I blushed, kahit na hindi ako maputi.Our literature class was watching Roxanne in the dark Audio-Visual Room one afternoon. He was beside me. He held my hand. I didn't flinch.It was the end of our junior years, and I was asking my classmates to sign my chemistry book. He scribbled, "Nords, I love you..." I laughed. He looked at me. I stopped laughing and got his book. "I love you, too" I wrote. He beamed.We were always together the beginning of our senior year. We took recess, spent lunchtime with each other and talked every chance we got. After CAT, he would wait for me, carry my bag and we'd head together to the classroom where he'd ask me to give him a massage."Mura na mu ug mag-uyab (para kayong mag-syota)," a classmate commented once. AJ put his arm around me and said, "Actually, kami na."But we were not an item. I was madly in love with Carl who was apathetic to me while AJ seemed to be falling for every beautiful girl in campus. Kilala ko lahat ng crush niya. I was even his "bridge" to a couple of them. But his attempts to win them failed at isang malaking misteryo sa akin iyun. He was smart, and good-looking, and funny, and sensitive. These girls didn't know what they were missing.In the early months of our friendship, kinukunsinti ako ni AJ sa kahibangan ko kay Carl. He'd tell me whenever Carl was outside our classroom, or he'd inform me about Carl's hereabouts. Sinasamahan pa niya ako minsan sa pang-i-stalk ko Pero si Carl ang dahilan kung bakit kami nag-away.I remember that afternoon when I was crying because I learned that Carl had a new girlfriend. AJ asked me why I was wasting my time crying over someone unworthy when I should be spending it with someone who loved me. Tinawag niya akong tanga and I stormed out of the room and didn't talk to him for weeks.During our retreat, our facilitator told us to ask forgiveness from people we hurt. I didn't know who made the move but I just saw myself face to face with him in the middle of the room. We looked at each other for a long time and then I started to cry. He pulled me to him and hugged me.Hindi ko alam kung gaano katagal kaming magkayakap pero noong gabi ng retreat, habang nakasandal ako sa dibdib niya at umiiyak, I realized that I was falling in love with him.And then he broke my heart.We were inside the empty music room, waiting for the other group members. I was listening to him play "Everything I do, I do it for you" on the keyboard. And then he stopped playing and started talking about his seatmate who was so nice to him.He said he was starting to like her. He asked, "Okay lang ba na manligaw ko sa iya, Nords?"Hindi ako nakasagot agad dahil ang totoo, gusto kong maiyak. Ilang beses na nagkuwento si AJ tungkol sa mga babaeng gusto niya pero noong araw na iyon, sobrang nasaktan ako sa narinig ko. Pero hindi ako nagpahalata. Ngumiti ako at sinabing, "Ifit's going to make you happy, then do it!" And for the first time, I secretly wished na sana ma-basted siya.We drifted apart after that incident. Laging silang magkasama noong girl na may gusto din sa kanya habang bumalik ako sa paghahabol kay Carl. We didn't see each other after our high school graduation because I studied in Manila. But when I went to Davao for a brief vacation after college, he came to see me even if it was already late at night and he arrived riding his bicycles, wearing pambahay t-shirt and shorts.Late 90s na iyun and I was working in my first job when I got an email from him, informing he would be in Manila for two weeks. He had plans of working abroad and he was completing his requirements in Manila. We went out thrice and I introduced him to my friends.It was in November 2001 when I received a text message from him. "I'm leaving for US tomorrow," the message said. I answered, "Ay, di na kita makikita uli?" His reply was a cheesy line from Aiza Seguera's songs: Pagdating ng panahon, baka ikaw rin at ako.He worked in US for two years but emails, messenger and text messages kept us together. We were chatting everyday, talking about anything and everything. We'd talk about our respective relationships, works and family. Sometimes, we would engage in a repartee of flirting and sexual innuendoes.Once, I asked him why he didn't come to see me before he left the country and he kidded something might happen to us and he wouldn't be able to go to the US.People close to us predicted that eventually, AJ and I would end up together pero hindi ko pinapansin ang sinasabi nila. Oo, AJ and I had a "moment" in high school but that was it. a moment. And high school was more than a decade ago.Minsan, we were chatting in Yahoo messenger and I was telling him about our high school reunion. Nagkuwento ako tungkol sa pagkikita namin ni Carl at kung paano ako kinilig nung hinalikan niya ako. His reply was:" Si Carl pa rin? Nords, forget him. You don't deserve him."You're right. I deserved you in high school. I deserve you now. Kung sana hindi ako nagpakatanga kay Carl, kung sana na-appreciate ko lahat ng ginawa mo, baka kasal na tayo ngayon. Baka may dalawa na tayong anak. Baka kasama mo na ako diyan sa US.Pagdating kay AJ, I will be living my life with maybe and what could have been. Hindi na mangyayari ang mga "baka" na iyun. He got married early this year.Siya iyong blueberry flavor na jelly bean. Masarap, oo. pero dumating siya ng mga panahong obsessed ako sa chocolate pudding. Kaya kahit na masarap siya, at nasiyahan ako, hindi ko pinansin. Feeling ko kasi nandiyan lang siya sa garapon. Hindi ko akalain na mauubos din pala siya. At nang ma-realize ko na gusto ko na ng blueberry sa halip na chocolate pudding, ubos na ang blueberry. Nakuha na ng iba.Siya ang blueberry flavor na jelly bean. Ang "the one who got away."
***I just f0und this interesting... Imagine nai-relate ung jelly beans sa life??? FANTABULOUS!!!
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
BGK game turned Derby *112208*
I sOo won't forget this day!!! Everything was s0o freakin' funny!!!
It was Mareng Madz bday and also BGK's game vs SLR, the game was elsewhere and I decided to just meet jamships at San Juan Arena. When I got there I got pretty much mesmerized by the luxury cars parked in the lot- thinking that the bball players used their top of the line rides. Anyway, while walking on my way to the entrance there were lots of guys murmuring at my back, I acted nonchalant, sa isip k0 kase they'll just sell tickets to me eh mr0n nak0 kina Mark; just in time Mark and Mareng Am were calling on my mobile,
the conversation goes a lil s0mething like this...
Mark: "asan kana?"
Gwen: Entrance pow... kau?
Mark: andito na den kame, d ka nmen makita!!! Wat color suot m??
Gwen: I'm wearing my Pink Helterbrand jacket.
Am: You're probably on the other entrance, punta na kame jan...
They did not hung up the phone, so with my ears stuck on the receiver I leaned on the rails of the steps so that I'll be able to see em coming...
At that time I can hear from the inside of the coliseum loud cheers...
Gwen: San na kau?
AM: D ka nmen makita
Mark: Gwen di ka nmen makita and2 na kame sa entrance!
Gwen: MARK, FEELING KO NASA IBANG LUGAR AKO..................................
that's when I turned around and asked the guy across me
Gwen: Manong, anong game na po ba t0h???
Manong Mananabong: Naku laban ng mga manukan t0h iha...
TOINKS!!!
Chaddddddddannnnnn! With all the my bl0od rushing to my head I raised my phone and hushed to Mark...
Gwen: Wag na wag m0ng ibaba t0ng telepono until makalbas ak0 d2!!!!super nakakahiya!!!
But I was like laughing out l0ud up until I got to the RIGHT BASKETBALL COURT...
Mare and the gang were like, kamusta sabong? *lol*
It's totaly fine lang nman kase if I wasn't wearing my jacket with HELTERBRAND written all over it db? geeeeeezzzz... It's just pretty 0bvious that this helterbrand chic g0t lost hahahaha
The game was great! Of course we won!!! Poor Coronel, eventhough he's my sch0olmate in college he won't get my sympathy... Super enj0y tlga esp whenever Mareng Thania, Mareng Am and Mareng Madz d0 their loud m0ckery...hehehe
Sabe ng Jamhips I was extra hyper that day, well 0f c0rz I saw Papi Helterbrand, and on t0p 0f that I saw Papi Tubid in this black polo after the game...whew!caliente! In lab nnman ak0
As s0on as he g0t out of the arena I was hearing background music playing
WHY DO BIRDS SUDDENLY APPEAR EVERYTIME YOU ARE NEAR, JUST LIKE ME THEY LONG TO BE
.........................................Then all of a sudden the music stopped playing c0z I saw his wife beside him!!!!! Kab0oooommmm!!! Nawala tul0y m0ment k0,hehehe parang cart0ons lang db?!
Basta ang alam k0 he was given one chunk of a trust fund *lol*
Bitter tlga... Well lam ng mga jamships what I'm talking abt...
After that we went to Shang and ate dinner of c0rz wid d bday gurl... Mare hapi hapi bday we labshyu s0o mucheeee!!!
Basta it was a blast!!!
Friday, November 14, 2008
Cash FLoW
***Maiba nman tau ng topic...hehe
Majority ng barkada q tatamaan d2 hehehe
There are those who e-mailed me asking about the basics of cash flow.
I'm really sorry that I assumed everybody already understands it.
Anyway, by demand ..... here it goes...
May isang bata... joke lang.
The basic is. What pattern do you see if you will get a P100.00 bill and monitor where and how it is transferred from 1 possessor to the other?How does it flow? The pattern for a typical Pinoy is.
You earn from your work, you spend it on food, gadgets, clothing and other basic needs. Before you reach the next payday, paubos na yung pera mo.But that's ok payday is just a few days ahead and it doesn't matter if I run out of money, I am expecting money again any time soon.This cycle goes on and on and you make some sidelines or create other ways to earn but it seems that money was never enough.(I am tempted to explain further pero usapan... basics lang).
So you can't leave the job that you have because a week without work would affect the cash flow you have to support your family and needs.
As much as you wanted to accept another job, the gap would make you pay less for a couple of days, which makes you a slave to your boss.At least, you have a job to support your needs.So to illustrate...Cash is flowing inside your pocket.Years have gone by doing your monotonous routine.Question... what if you get fired? Or you were forced to retire because there are new and younger people ready to take your place.What would you do?As an OFW, Makati Executive, Top Salesman, Engineer, Attorney, Teacher, etc... What if it all ends?
The sweet cash that enters your pocket every15 th and 30 th suddenly comes to a halt.There are two things you can buy with your money... An asset and a liability. To describe each... An asset brings money inside your pocket ; a liability takes money out of your pocket . Another way to see, it is that an asset if you buy one, will bring the money you spent for it back to you 2 or 3 folds. A liability, when you buy it will not give your money back at all.Sa ilocano... idjay ti kwa... djak maawatan... (joke lang po, seryoso na kayo eh...)
Sa madaling salita... kapag asset, maibabalik ang pera , pag liability, goodbye sa pera...Ang problema kay JUAN DE LA CRUZ, habang may trabaho ipon ng ipon at bili ng bili ng liability!I have seen OFWs get back to the country with gold chains at kung pwede lang limang shades ang isuot ng sabay-sabay gagawin nya eh...dvd, component, jackets, clothes, inuman, pulutan, party, pabango... hindi na makalakad sa dami ng bitbit...
At s'yempre mga empleyado natin dito sa bansa na lingo-lingo bago cell phone at mags ng kotse.. hindi na nga magkasya ang damit sa aparador, tapos pag umaga sasabihin.... wala na akong maisuot.Guys, esep-esep... what you bought... will it bring money back to you?
I know what you have in mind... you have to enjoy what you worked hard for.That's right, but think of something that will last... think of your future.I have seen the worst of people who were abogado de kampanilya, executive secretaries of top rank business men, people who worked for big companies, earned a fortune and got a big retirement pay by the millions... Now....Wala na.Why? Because of their cash flow... went in... went out.I need not to mention basketball players, actors, singers, etc... Check their career path... next after acting, singing and playing...POLITICS.Kasi, 'yung million na kinita nila, puro liability ang binili.
Going back... all the liability they bought, ibinenta ng mura! I'm wearing a gold chain now, which I got from a seaman... he bought it for P35,000 and sold it for 8,000 to me. Hindi po asset ang alahas! Bakit? Totoo na tumataas ang value n'ya pero kapag gutom ka na, kahit palugi ibebenta mo!(wala bang aaray?) Cell phones... dvd players etc. pati bahay at kotse...that's the cash flow of most OFWs...
The question is ... "WHAT IF THE INCOME STOPS?"Sa Pinoy, ganito: anak... mag-aral kang maigi, at pag tanda namin... ikaw na bahala sa amin ha.... Hindi po ba maling-mali...You have to establish something today that will take care of your future.
Teka, teka... eh ano ang dapat gawin para hindi mangyari yan?You must create a source of income that will continually make money flow inside your pocket. Start a business! While you are working as an executive or an OFW, or a professional... START A BUSINESS and MASTER that business till you get out of that company. Para kapag tumigil ang income mo sa kanila... may susuporta pa din sa iyo hanggang pag-tanda mo!Now don't tell me to invest my money on pensions and plans... NO WAY!Narinig n'yo na siguro yung .... Naku ayaw ko na magbanggit.... 'yung mga nagbayad at hindi nakapag-claim... sila pa ang dinimanda at nag-piyansa!!!HUWAG MO I-ASA ANG PAGTANDA MO SA IBA! GUMAWA KA NG SARILI MONG BALON NG PERA! KAHIT MALIIT PA 'YAN, SARILI MO AT HINDI KA AASA SA IBANG TAO...Imagine yourself when you reach an older age... (aruy ko,,, baka yung iba sa inyo about that age... tabi tabi po...Ako po sa mga nagtatanong...I'm 37 years old. Naabutan ko pa si Michael Jackson at hinele po ako ng nanay ko sa mga kanta ng hagibis...).
You have money that the company gave you as your retirement pay... what will you do?You can consume the money till your old... eh kung hindi umabot? Masamang damo ka pala... at hindi ka kaagad kinuha ni Lord. Eh pang age 65 lang yung naipon mo na budget.Or maybe, you can start a business and use the money for capital...Kapatid... 9 out of 10 businesses, FAILED... yung isang magsa-succeed, gagayahin pa ng kapitbahay mo instead na mag-franchise sa 'yo... think! At age 50, you are struggling trying to make a business work! What if it fails?!Eh ano nga ba ang sagot?The answer is, stop buying liabilities and instead buy assets now.
I don't care if it is a banana-Q store, balot, ice candy or a sari-sari store, etc... start now! Because, your experience here will teach you what to do in the future. It's so hard to struggle in business when you are 60 yrs old.You have to create a source of income separated from the source of income from your work. That when the time comes that you have to stop working, you will have your own source of money! Create assets, start a business that will be there to support you and your family. I AM NOT TELLING YOU TO QUIT YOUR JOB! I'm telling you to start a business while you're working and stop spending your money on liabilities and start putting them on assets!Ang pera kapag pinambili mo ng LIABILITY... hindi na babalik... ang ASSET... BABALIK.Teka... masama ba bumili ng mga magagandang gamit? Hindi! Siguraduhin mo lang na ang pambili mo nun ay galing sa asset mo. The business has to be prioritized! Mawalan ka man ng trabaho, may negosyo kang palalaguin.If before, nabubuhay ka naman ng iisa sapatos mo, huwag mo baguhin 'yun...dati, nagdyi-jeep ka lang... 'wag ka na munang mag-FX...
Create assets and lessen liabilities. Invest and learn now... mag-negosyo!Eh anong negosyo? Any, as long as you think it is work and doable! I am still looking for partners for my HOME MASSAGE SERVICE! SPA MAGIC! And my business CAR MAGIC is still franchising... (joke lang ... baka sabihin nyo nag pro-promote lang ako eh...But I AM PROUD TO SAY THAT ALL MY BUSINESSES ARE ORIGINAL AND ALL ARE GRAND ASSETS!I started all my businesses with a very small capital. If I used that money to buy a gadget, new shoes or any liability... baka wala lahat ng negosyo ko at wala na akong makain ngayon.Again, I hope that this BASIC CASH FLOW article helps....
-FROM UNKNOWN AUTHOR
Majority ng barkada q tatamaan d2 hehehe
There are those who e-mailed me asking about the basics of cash flow.
I'm really sorry that I assumed everybody already understands it.
Anyway, by demand ..... here it goes...
May isang bata... joke lang.
The basic is. What pattern do you see if you will get a P100.00 bill and monitor where and how it is transferred from 1 possessor to the other?How does it flow? The pattern for a typical Pinoy is.
You earn from your work, you spend it on food, gadgets, clothing and other basic needs. Before you reach the next payday, paubos na yung pera mo.But that's ok payday is just a few days ahead and it doesn't matter if I run out of money, I am expecting money again any time soon.This cycle goes on and on and you make some sidelines or create other ways to earn but it seems that money was never enough.(I am tempted to explain further pero usapan... basics lang).
So you can't leave the job that you have because a week without work would affect the cash flow you have to support your family and needs.
As much as you wanted to accept another job, the gap would make you pay less for a couple of days, which makes you a slave to your boss.At least, you have a job to support your needs.So to illustrate...Cash is flowing inside your pocket.Years have gone by doing your monotonous routine.Question... what if you get fired? Or you were forced to retire because there are new and younger people ready to take your place.What would you do?As an OFW, Makati Executive, Top Salesman, Engineer, Attorney, Teacher, etc... What if it all ends?
The sweet cash that enters your pocket every15 th and 30 th suddenly comes to a halt.There are two things you can buy with your money... An asset and a liability. To describe each... An asset brings money inside your pocket ; a liability takes money out of your pocket . Another way to see, it is that an asset if you buy one, will bring the money you spent for it back to you 2 or 3 folds. A liability, when you buy it will not give your money back at all.Sa ilocano... idjay ti kwa... djak maawatan... (joke lang po, seryoso na kayo eh...)
Sa madaling salita... kapag asset, maibabalik ang pera , pag liability, goodbye sa pera...Ang problema kay JUAN DE LA CRUZ, habang may trabaho ipon ng ipon at bili ng bili ng liability!I have seen OFWs get back to the country with gold chains at kung pwede lang limang shades ang isuot ng sabay-sabay gagawin nya eh...dvd, component, jackets, clothes, inuman, pulutan, party, pabango... hindi na makalakad sa dami ng bitbit...
At s'yempre mga empleyado natin dito sa bansa na lingo-lingo bago cell phone at mags ng kotse.. hindi na nga magkasya ang damit sa aparador, tapos pag umaga sasabihin.... wala na akong maisuot.Guys, esep-esep... what you bought... will it bring money back to you?
I know what you have in mind... you have to enjoy what you worked hard for.That's right, but think of something that will last... think of your future.I have seen the worst of people who were abogado de kampanilya, executive secretaries of top rank business men, people who worked for big companies, earned a fortune and got a big retirement pay by the millions... Now....Wala na.Why? Because of their cash flow... went in... went out.I need not to mention basketball players, actors, singers, etc... Check their career path... next after acting, singing and playing...POLITICS.Kasi, 'yung million na kinita nila, puro liability ang binili.
Going back... all the liability they bought, ibinenta ng mura! I'm wearing a gold chain now, which I got from a seaman... he bought it for P35,000 and sold it for 8,000 to me. Hindi po asset ang alahas! Bakit? Totoo na tumataas ang value n'ya pero kapag gutom ka na, kahit palugi ibebenta mo!(wala bang aaray?) Cell phones... dvd players etc. pati bahay at kotse...that's the cash flow of most OFWs...
The question is ... "WHAT IF THE INCOME STOPS?"Sa Pinoy, ganito: anak... mag-aral kang maigi, at pag tanda namin... ikaw na bahala sa amin ha.... Hindi po ba maling-mali...You have to establish something today that will take care of your future.
Teka, teka... eh ano ang dapat gawin para hindi mangyari yan?You must create a source of income that will continually make money flow inside your pocket. Start a business! While you are working as an executive or an OFW, or a professional... START A BUSINESS and MASTER that business till you get out of that company. Para kapag tumigil ang income mo sa kanila... may susuporta pa din sa iyo hanggang pag-tanda mo!Now don't tell me to invest my money on pensions and plans... NO WAY!Narinig n'yo na siguro yung .... Naku ayaw ko na magbanggit.... 'yung mga nagbayad at hindi nakapag-claim... sila pa ang dinimanda at nag-piyansa!!!HUWAG MO I-ASA ANG PAGTANDA MO SA IBA! GUMAWA KA NG SARILI MONG BALON NG PERA! KAHIT MALIIT PA 'YAN, SARILI MO AT HINDI KA AASA SA IBANG TAO...Imagine yourself when you reach an older age... (aruy ko,,, baka yung iba sa inyo about that age... tabi tabi po...Ako po sa mga nagtatanong...I'm 37 years old. Naabutan ko pa si Michael Jackson at hinele po ako ng nanay ko sa mga kanta ng hagibis...).
You have money that the company gave you as your retirement pay... what will you do?You can consume the money till your old... eh kung hindi umabot? Masamang damo ka pala... at hindi ka kaagad kinuha ni Lord. Eh pang age 65 lang yung naipon mo na budget.Or maybe, you can start a business and use the money for capital...Kapatid... 9 out of 10 businesses, FAILED... yung isang magsa-succeed, gagayahin pa ng kapitbahay mo instead na mag-franchise sa 'yo... think! At age 50, you are struggling trying to make a business work! What if it fails?!Eh ano nga ba ang sagot?The answer is, stop buying liabilities and instead buy assets now.
I don't care if it is a banana-Q store, balot, ice candy or a sari-sari store, etc... start now! Because, your experience here will teach you what to do in the future. It's so hard to struggle in business when you are 60 yrs old.You have to create a source of income separated from the source of income from your work. That when the time comes that you have to stop working, you will have your own source of money! Create assets, start a business that will be there to support you and your family. I AM NOT TELLING YOU TO QUIT YOUR JOB! I'm telling you to start a business while you're working and stop spending your money on liabilities and start putting them on assets!Ang pera kapag pinambili mo ng LIABILITY... hindi na babalik... ang ASSET... BABALIK.Teka... masama ba bumili ng mga magagandang gamit? Hindi! Siguraduhin mo lang na ang pambili mo nun ay galing sa asset mo. The business has to be prioritized! Mawalan ka man ng trabaho, may negosyo kang palalaguin.If before, nabubuhay ka naman ng iisa sapatos mo, huwag mo baguhin 'yun...dati, nagdyi-jeep ka lang... 'wag ka na munang mag-FX...
Create assets and lessen liabilities. Invest and learn now... mag-negosyo!Eh anong negosyo? Any, as long as you think it is work and doable! I am still looking for partners for my HOME MASSAGE SERVICE! SPA MAGIC! And my business CAR MAGIC is still franchising... (joke lang ... baka sabihin nyo nag pro-promote lang ako eh...But I AM PROUD TO SAY THAT ALL MY BUSINESSES ARE ORIGINAL AND ALL ARE GRAND ASSETS!I started all my businesses with a very small capital. If I used that money to buy a gadget, new shoes or any liability... baka wala lahat ng negosyo ko at wala na akong makain ngayon.Again, I hope that this BASIC CASH FLOW article helps....
-FROM UNKNOWN AUTHOR
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
What uR FaVe CoLor Means...
Red:You are intense and passionate. You are gutsy, sultry, and bold but have a bit of a bad temper. You are fearless, impulsive, assertive and wild.
Pink:You are cute, kind, and sweet. You are calm, quiet and content. You like candles and flowers and you love romance.
Orange:You are confident, energetic, and hyper. You are wild, outgoing, gutsy and loud. You love being noticed.
Gold:You are extravagant, classy and slightly vain. Looking good is like a neccessity to you and you love money.
Yellow:You are mellow, happy, upbeat, and friendly. You are positive and optimistic and are always finding a bright side to everything.
Green:You are energetic and easygoing. You are earthly and natural and open-minded. You like change and often get tired of the same things easily.
Blue:You are dependable and organized, and also slightly vain or conceited. You don't get stressed out easily and you set goals and are not satisfied until you acheive them.
Purple:You are artsy, creative, and unique. You do your own thing and don't go along with the crowd. Since purple is a mixture of red and blue, you are calm and intense at the same time.
Black:You are introverted and pessimistic. You are often depressive and unhappy and discontent with your life and/or self. Silver:You are glamourous and exuberant. You are ambitious and love recognition. You have some sort of preoccupation with fame.
***My faves are gold, pink, yellow, black, red, purple, blue, green...hehe
Lahat nalang!*lol*
Pink:You are cute, kind, and sweet. You are calm, quiet and content. You like candles and flowers and you love romance.
Orange:You are confident, energetic, and hyper. You are wild, outgoing, gutsy and loud. You love being noticed.
Gold:You are extravagant, classy and slightly vain. Looking good is like a neccessity to you and you love money.
Yellow:You are mellow, happy, upbeat, and friendly. You are positive and optimistic and are always finding a bright side to everything.
Green:You are energetic and easygoing. You are earthly and natural and open-minded. You like change and often get tired of the same things easily.
Blue:You are dependable and organized, and also slightly vain or conceited. You don't get stressed out easily and you set goals and are not satisfied until you acheive them.
Purple:You are artsy, creative, and unique. You do your own thing and don't go along with the crowd. Since purple is a mixture of red and blue, you are calm and intense at the same time.
Black:You are introverted and pessimistic. You are often depressive and unhappy and discontent with your life and/or self. Silver:You are glamourous and exuberant. You are ambitious and love recognition. You have some sort of preoccupation with fame.
***My faves are gold, pink, yellow, black, red, purple, blue, green...hehe
Lahat nalang!*lol*
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Hindi k0 na sha mahal!!! Hindi k0 na sha mahal!!!
"HINDI KO NA SYA MAHAL (HINDI KO SYA MAHAL)"
Naranasan mo na bang magsabi nyan???
Kung OO ang sagot mo, pwes! alam mo ba na out of 10 people na nagsabi nyan 5 ang nagsasabi ng totoo?? yes! meaning 5 ang sinungaling!
Kc, minsan maraming dahilan kung bakit nasasabi yan...
iSiPin MO ito..
Nasasabi ang linyang yan sa mga sitwasyon gaya ng..
NAGUGULUHAN = ito ung mga taong nasa isang relasyon pgktapos eh may iba pang mahal na iba.. kailangan nilang mapaniwala ang sarili na hindi na hindi na nila mahal ung isa para, mahalin naman ung isa pa.
(HALIMBAWA:> im> sori may iba na kong mahal, HINDI NA KITA MAHAL)
pero echos! ang totoo di ka naman syur kung sino pa talga sa kanila ang matimbang... gets mo? (kung hindi kawawa ka naman..=)
MASAMA ANG LOOB = eto naman ung mga taong katatapos lng hiwalayan o nagawan ng di maganda sa isang relasyon.
(HALIMBAWA: bakit> nya nagawa sakin toh! HINDI KO NA SYA MAHAL!)
pero ay naku dala lng yan ng sama ng loob mo..sige hinga ng malalim..tulog ng mahimbing.. paggising mo bukas naku...sya na naman ang naalala mo..(miz mo noh? =)
BASTED = as in ayaw nya daw sayo..
PARE OKEI KA LNG?
(SAGOT: okei lng ako pre, wala na un hindi ko na rin sya mahal) uyyy> pa-macho epek.. SISTER OKEI KA LNG?
(SAGOT: yuh im okei, as in hindi ko na sya> mahal noh?!) ows? go gurl!
LIHIM NA PAG-IBIG = eto naman ung mga taong ayaw ipaalam sa kanilang minamahal ang totoo, para lang mapagtakpan ang nararamdaman nila, lalo na't binubuking na sila.. (HALIMBAWA: Hindi ko sya mahal ah, friend lng ang turing ko sa kanya.)
ay naku! yan din sinabi ni jolina kay marvin!
PA-I WILL SURVIVE epek = eto ang mga taong gusto ng kumawala sa hawla ng alala ng taong minamahal..
(HALIMBAWA: pagod na> ko..from now on, kakalimutan ko na sya, hindi ko na sya mahal! smart na ko ngayon, i will survive!)...hehe sino ka? si kris aquino??
TAAS NG PRIDE = eto ung mga taong di nila maamin sa sarili nila na mahal nila ang isang person kc nga malayo sa standard nila ung gurl/guy or lets say may ibang dahilan..pero nainlab sila.
(HALIMBAWA: yun? hindi ko sya mahal noh. ako pa kilala nyo ko) sabay Naka cross ang mga fingers ng kanilang hands and feet!
TAKOT = eto ung mga taong dahil ilang beses na nasaktan sa larangan ng pag> ibig, eh ayaw ng magmahal kahit na mahal naman talga nila ang isang taong nagmamahal sa kanila..(HALIMBAWA: ayaw ko ng masaktan ulit...hindi kita mahal.) ..o tapos? hehe
PAGHIHIGANTI = eto naman ung mga taong binabalikan matapos ng hiwalayan...
syempre sobra nga naman sila nasaktan kaya sasabihan nya ng "MASYADO AKONG NASAKTAN SA MGA NANGYARI, HINDI NA KITA MAHAL" ...o loko bagay sayo!
***I was giggling while d0ing this entry c0z im sure madame matatamaan...
Bato bato sa langit matamaan wag magalit take two...hehe
D nman aq magmamaganda, at mas madame mag rereact kng d ak0 aamin na SAPUL DIN aq d2, nman! Mahirap magpanggap na mahal naten ung isang ta0 kahet hndi (in relati0n t0 1 0f my prev bl0gs) pr0 mas mahirap ung magpanggap na hndi naten mahal ung isang ta0 kahet na wag ka pag mulat plang ng iy0ng mga mata cmula pag gcng hanggang sa pagpikit net0 sa pagtul0g eh sha nasa icp m, ung tip0ng hrap na hrap ka na sa pag kumbinsi sa sarili mo na HINDI! HINDI KO NA SHA MAHAL!!! HNDI NA TLGA!!!
Pro sha nman takbo ng takbo sa icp m... Na kesho masaya o malungk0t man nangyayari sau eh sha ung unang unang tao na maiicp m... Sabe nga ni LA Alunday saken, "cge lang... cge lang paniwalain mo sarili mo mag sasawa ka den"
Well, may point nman sha db...
Pro naku frend kung natatawa ka d2 eh tgilan m na yang gnagawa mong pag dedeny, torture yan!!!
Kung tlgang mahal m0 pa ung tao eh wag m na lok0hin ung sarili m, aminin m nlang kase dadating at dadating den ung tym na lilipas den yan... Magugulat ka nalng isang araw na iba na ung ta0ng iniicp m...na tumatakb0 sa icip m0...na nakakapag pangiti sau...
(tsk tsk!wlang kadala dala!!!) nd ma realize m n wla ka ng nararamdaman d0n s taong dati eh hrap na hrap kang alisin sa icip m... Pro shempre di gn0n ka bilis un, depende den kase kng gan0 ka KAFLIRT kase naku ung ibang kakilala k0 jan after 3 hours eh nakapag m0ve on na hahahaha san ka pa db?!?
But kidding aside...wla nman exact formula jan eh...
Kaya sana kapag nagsabe ka na "Hndi k0 na sha mahal" eh sana ung tot0o na tlga...
Ung alam m sarili m na nagsasabe ka na tlga ng toto0... *wink*
PS
Fitsie hndi para sau toh hehehe labshyu frend!
Naranasan mo na bang magsabi nyan???
Kung OO ang sagot mo, pwes! alam mo ba na out of 10 people na nagsabi nyan 5 ang nagsasabi ng totoo?? yes! meaning 5 ang sinungaling!
Kc, minsan maraming dahilan kung bakit nasasabi yan...
iSiPin MO ito..
Nasasabi ang linyang yan sa mga sitwasyon gaya ng..
NAGUGULUHAN = ito ung mga taong nasa isang relasyon pgktapos eh may iba pang mahal na iba.. kailangan nilang mapaniwala ang sarili na hindi na hindi na nila mahal ung isa para, mahalin naman ung isa pa.
(HALIMBAWA:> im> sori may iba na kong mahal, HINDI NA KITA MAHAL)
pero echos! ang totoo di ka naman syur kung sino pa talga sa kanila ang matimbang... gets mo? (kung hindi kawawa ka naman..=)
MASAMA ANG LOOB = eto naman ung mga taong katatapos lng hiwalayan o nagawan ng di maganda sa isang relasyon.
(HALIMBAWA: bakit> nya nagawa sakin toh! HINDI KO NA SYA MAHAL!)
pero ay naku dala lng yan ng sama ng loob mo..sige hinga ng malalim..tulog ng mahimbing.. paggising mo bukas naku...sya na naman ang naalala mo..(miz mo noh? =)
BASTED = as in ayaw nya daw sayo..
PARE OKEI KA LNG?
(SAGOT: okei lng ako pre, wala na un hindi ko na rin sya mahal) uyyy> pa-macho epek.. SISTER OKEI KA LNG?
(SAGOT: yuh im okei, as in hindi ko na sya> mahal noh?!) ows? go gurl!
LIHIM NA PAG-IBIG = eto naman ung mga taong ayaw ipaalam sa kanilang minamahal ang totoo, para lang mapagtakpan ang nararamdaman nila, lalo na't binubuking na sila.. (HALIMBAWA: Hindi ko sya mahal ah, friend lng ang turing ko sa kanya.)
ay naku! yan din sinabi ni jolina kay marvin!
PA-I WILL SURVIVE epek = eto ang mga taong gusto ng kumawala sa hawla ng alala ng taong minamahal..
(HALIMBAWA: pagod na> ko..from now on, kakalimutan ko na sya, hindi ko na sya mahal! smart na ko ngayon, i will survive!)...hehe sino ka? si kris aquino??
TAAS NG PRIDE = eto ung mga taong di nila maamin sa sarili nila na mahal nila ang isang person kc nga malayo sa standard nila ung gurl/guy or lets say may ibang dahilan..pero nainlab sila.
(HALIMBAWA: yun? hindi ko sya mahal noh. ako pa kilala nyo ko) sabay Naka cross ang mga fingers ng kanilang hands and feet!
TAKOT = eto ung mga taong dahil ilang beses na nasaktan sa larangan ng pag> ibig, eh ayaw ng magmahal kahit na mahal naman talga nila ang isang taong nagmamahal sa kanila..(HALIMBAWA: ayaw ko ng masaktan ulit...hindi kita mahal.) ..o tapos? hehe
PAGHIHIGANTI = eto naman ung mga taong binabalikan matapos ng hiwalayan...
syempre sobra nga naman sila nasaktan kaya sasabihan nya ng "MASYADO AKONG NASAKTAN SA MGA NANGYARI, HINDI NA KITA MAHAL" ...o loko bagay sayo!
***I was giggling while d0ing this entry c0z im sure madame matatamaan...
Bato bato sa langit matamaan wag magalit take two...hehe
D nman aq magmamaganda, at mas madame mag rereact kng d ak0 aamin na SAPUL DIN aq d2, nman! Mahirap magpanggap na mahal naten ung isang ta0 kahet hndi (in relati0n t0 1 0f my prev bl0gs) pr0 mas mahirap ung magpanggap na hndi naten mahal ung isang ta0 kahet na wag ka pag mulat plang ng iy0ng mga mata cmula pag gcng hanggang sa pagpikit net0 sa pagtul0g eh sha nasa icp m, ung tip0ng hrap na hrap ka na sa pag kumbinsi sa sarili mo na HINDI! HINDI KO NA SHA MAHAL!!! HNDI NA TLGA!!!
Pro sha nman takbo ng takbo sa icp m... Na kesho masaya o malungk0t man nangyayari sau eh sha ung unang unang tao na maiicp m... Sabe nga ni LA Alunday saken, "cge lang... cge lang paniwalain mo sarili mo mag sasawa ka den"
Well, may point nman sha db...
Pro naku frend kung natatawa ka d2 eh tgilan m na yang gnagawa mong pag dedeny, torture yan!!!
Kung tlgang mahal m0 pa ung tao eh wag m na lok0hin ung sarili m, aminin m nlang kase dadating at dadating den ung tym na lilipas den yan... Magugulat ka nalng isang araw na iba na ung ta0ng iniicp m...na tumatakb0 sa icip m0...na nakakapag pangiti sau...
(tsk tsk!wlang kadala dala!!!) nd ma realize m n wla ka ng nararamdaman d0n s taong dati eh hrap na hrap kang alisin sa icip m... Pro shempre di gn0n ka bilis un, depende den kase kng gan0 ka KAFLIRT kase naku ung ibang kakilala k0 jan after 3 hours eh nakapag m0ve on na hahahaha san ka pa db?!?
But kidding aside...wla nman exact formula jan eh...
Kaya sana kapag nagsabe ka na "Hndi k0 na sha mahal" eh sana ung tot0o na tlga...
Ung alam m sarili m na nagsasabe ka na tlga ng toto0... *wink*
PS
Fitsie hndi para sau toh hehehe labshyu frend!
Personal Perception
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison.
A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman." The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by other peep's words if our conscience is clear..
***this is one of my classic faves...
at the end of the day it b0ils d0wn to RESPECT!
A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman." The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by other peep's words if our conscience is clear..
***this is one of my classic faves...
at the end of the day it b0ils d0wn to RESPECT!
To all my friends...
To My Friends Who Are...........SINGLE
Love is like a butterfly . The more you chase it , the more it eludes you. But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expect it. Love can make you happy but often it hurts , but love's only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it. So take your time and choose the best.
To My Friends Who Are............NOT SO SINGLE
Love isn't about becoming somebody else's "perfect person." It's about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.
To My Friends Who Are............PLAYBOY/GIRL TYPE
Never say "I love you" if you don't care. Never talk about feelings i! f they aren't there. Never touch a life if you mean to break a heart . Never look in the eye when all you do is lie. The cruelest thing a guy can do to a girl is to let her fall in love when he doesn't intend to catch her fall and it works both ways...
To My Friends Who Are............MARRIED
Love is not about "it's your fault", but "I'm sorry." Not "where are you", but "I'm right here." Not "how could you", but "I understand." Not "I wish you were", but "I'm thankful you are."
To My Friends Who Are............ENGAGED
The true measure of compatibility is not the years spent together but how good you are for each other.
To My Friends Who Are............HEARTBROKEN
Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut as deep as you allow them to go. The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks but to learn from them.
To My Friends Who Are............NAIVE
How to be in love: Fall but don't stumble, be consistent but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, and get hurt but never keep the pain.
To My Friends Who Are............POSSESSIVE
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.
To My Friends Who Are............AFRAID TO CONFESS
Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you love has no idea how you feel.
To My Friends Who Are............STILL HOLDING ON
A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fall in love, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and that you have wasted years on someone who wasn't worth it. If he isn't worth it now he's not going to be worth it a year or 10 years from now. Let go.....
TO ALL MY FRIENDS....... My wish for you is a man/woman whose love is honest, strong , mature, never-changing, uplifting, protective, encouraging, unconditional and unselfish.
***Cheesy i know ure going through a r0ugh tym right now, I know things are never easy wen it c0mes to relati0nships but regardless of wats g0ing to happen we have ur back ayt *wink*
Just tell me if uve had en0ugh and ill have HIM kidnapped and l0cked up *hehe*
pr0 girl ha as for me lang nman HE'S SOO NOT WORTH IT, IF HE WANTS TO LEAVE OPEN THE EFFIN' EXIT!!!
There are gazilion men WAY BETTA DAN HIM TRUST ME *wink*
Lav yah gurl!!!cyah t0m at market2...sm0oches!!!
Love is like a butterfly . The more you chase it , the more it eludes you. But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expect it. Love can make you happy but often it hurts , but love's only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it. So take your time and choose the best.
To My Friends Who Are............NOT SO SINGLE
Love isn't about becoming somebody else's "perfect person." It's about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.
To My Friends Who Are............PLAYBOY/GIRL TYPE
Never say "I love you" if you don't care. Never talk about feelings i! f they aren't there. Never touch a life if you mean to break a heart . Never look in the eye when all you do is lie. The cruelest thing a guy can do to a girl is to let her fall in love when he doesn't intend to catch her fall and it works both ways...
To My Friends Who Are............MARRIED
Love is not about "it's your fault", but "I'm sorry." Not "where are you", but "I'm right here." Not "how could you", but "I understand." Not "I wish you were", but "I'm thankful you are."
To My Friends Who Are............ENGAGED
The true measure of compatibility is not the years spent together but how good you are for each other.
To My Friends Who Are............HEARTBROKEN
Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut as deep as you allow them to go. The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks but to learn from them.
To My Friends Who Are............NAIVE
How to be in love: Fall but don't stumble, be consistent but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, and get hurt but never keep the pain.
To My Friends Who Are............POSSESSIVE
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.
To My Friends Who Are............AFRAID TO CONFESS
Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you love has no idea how you feel.
To My Friends Who Are............STILL HOLDING ON
A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fall in love, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and that you have wasted years on someone who wasn't worth it. If he isn't worth it now he's not going to be worth it a year or 10 years from now. Let go.....
TO ALL MY FRIENDS....... My wish for you is a man/woman whose love is honest, strong , mature, never-changing, uplifting, protective, encouraging, unconditional and unselfish.
***Cheesy i know ure going through a r0ugh tym right now, I know things are never easy wen it c0mes to relati0nships but regardless of wats g0ing to happen we have ur back ayt *wink*
Just tell me if uve had en0ugh and ill have HIM kidnapped and l0cked up *hehe*
pr0 girl ha as for me lang nman HE'S SOO NOT WORTH IT, IF HE WANTS TO LEAVE OPEN THE EFFIN' EXIT!!!
There are gazilion men WAY BETTA DAN HIM TRUST ME *wink*
Lav yah gurl!!!cyah t0m at market2...sm0oches!!!
Mahal m nga b tlga?!?
para sa mga taong nanliligaw, nagbabalak manligaw, nililigawan,naliligaw, nag-iintay maligawan at nagbabalak lumagay sa magulo..........
ang love ay hindi minamadali...
hindi pinipilit..at lalong hindi kina-career...
aray ko!!!
unang-una...PAANO MO BA NASABING MAHAL MO NA SIYA???
...dahil ba natutuwa ka sa kanya???...o kaya naman naaaliw ka???...naswee-sweetan ka ba ng sobra sa kanya???...kinikilig ka ba pag nakikita mo siya???...at nahi-high kapag naririnig mo na ang boses niya???...eh teka muna...baka naman infatuated ka lang....o kaya naman kagaya nga ng sagot mo...BAKA naaaliw ka lang...dahil kakaiba siya...may spark na hindi mo maintindihan...tsk!!!...ang saklap nyan!
pangalawa...GAANO MO NA BA SIYA KAKILALA???...madali ba siyang mapikon???...pano ba siya mabadtrip???...madali bang mahalata na may topak siya???...ano bang suot niya pag nasa bahay siya???...shorts ba o pantalon???...nakasando ba siya o naka-t-shirt lang???...matagal ba siyang maligo???....kumakain ba siya ng vegetables???...tamad ba siya???...mas gusto ba niyang manood ng tv kaysa magbasa ng libro???... nagpe-playstation ba siya???... tatlo ba ang pamangkin niyang lalaki???...makukulit ba yung mga kamag-anak niya???... green ba ang kulay ng gateng bahay nila???... sa village ba siya nakatira???... may sakayan ba ngjeep na malapit sa kanila???... nagsisimba ba siya linggo-linggo???...kasama ba yung pamilya niya???... at nagdadasal ba siya bagomatulog???...in short...alam mo na nga ba???...ang mga bagay-bagay...ang mga simpleng bagay tungkol sa kanya...na nagdedetermine ng sarili niya...as in kung sino ba talaga SIYA...
pangatlo...KAYA MO BA SIYANG TANGGAPIN???...as in TANGGAPIN ng buong-buo...sa lahat ng trip niya sa buhay...sa lahat ng katopakan niya...sa lahat ng pag-iinarte at pag-dadrama niya...sa lahat ng kasalanang nagawa, ginawa, at gagawin pa lang niya...salahat ng naiisip niya... sa lahat ng sasabihin niya... sa kilos niya...sa pananamit pa pala niya... sa pagsasalita... sa pananaw niya sabuhay... sa pagtrato niya sa tao... sa lifestyle niya... sa uri ngpamilyang meron siya... sa uri ng kaibigang kasa-kasama niya... sa styleniya pagdating sa love... sa kasweetan niyang natural... sa paglalambingniya... sa tawa niyang pagkalakas-lakas... sa manners niya... sa bisyoniya kung meron man... sa mga pang-aasar niya sayo... sa style niyapagdating sa pagsolve ng problema... sa problemang maaari ka ringmasama...
pang-apat...KAYA MO BANG MAGING TOTOO???...kaya mo bang makita yung sarili mo...na kasama pa rin siya ha...sa isang sitwasyong pag naisip mo eh...mapapaiyak ka na lang sa sakit...nang dahil din sa kanya???...kaya mo bang magmukhang tanga...as in umiyak ng dahil sa kababawan...ibuhos ang mga nararamdaman mo...kahit na puro kababawan nga lang naman...as in kahit sa harapan niya???...kaya mo bang maging barubal pag kasama mo siya???...yung tipo bang wala ka ng pakielam...mawala man ang manners mo...na wala ka naman talaga...in short...KAYA MO BANG MAGING IKAW KAPAG KASAMA MO NA SIYA???...yung tipong hindi ka nahihiyang ipakita kung sino katalaga...dahil alam mong...HINDI MO LANG SIYA TANGGAP...TANGGAP KA RIN NIYA...BUONG-BUO RIN...MGA TAO!!!...tama na kasi ang trip...tama na ang pagmamadali...oo masarap ngang mainvolve sa isang tao...pero diba mas masarap yun...LALO NA KUNG ALAM MONG TOTOO YUNG NARARAMDAMAN MO....kaya dapat, hinde tayo nagpapabulag sa akala nating LOVE....mag antay na lang tayo....wag natin unahan....for all we know, nde pa pala cya ang para sa atin......pero pag nasagot mo lahat ng nasa taas....baka nga mahal mo na cya...
ang love ay hindi minamadali...
hindi pinipilit..at lalong hindi kina-career...
aray ko!!!
unang-una...PAANO MO BA NASABING MAHAL MO NA SIYA???
...dahil ba natutuwa ka sa kanya???...o kaya naman naaaliw ka???...naswee-sweetan ka ba ng sobra sa kanya???...kinikilig ka ba pag nakikita mo siya???...at nahi-high kapag naririnig mo na ang boses niya???...eh teka muna...baka naman infatuated ka lang....o kaya naman kagaya nga ng sagot mo...BAKA naaaliw ka lang...dahil kakaiba siya...may spark na hindi mo maintindihan...tsk!!!...ang saklap nyan!
pangalawa...GAANO MO NA BA SIYA KAKILALA???...madali ba siyang mapikon???...pano ba siya mabadtrip???...madali bang mahalata na may topak siya???...ano bang suot niya pag nasa bahay siya???...shorts ba o pantalon???...nakasando ba siya o naka-t-shirt lang???...matagal ba siyang maligo???....kumakain ba siya ng vegetables???...tamad ba siya???...mas gusto ba niyang manood ng tv kaysa magbasa ng libro???... nagpe-playstation ba siya???... tatlo ba ang pamangkin niyang lalaki???...makukulit ba yung mga kamag-anak niya???... green ba ang kulay ng gateng bahay nila???... sa village ba siya nakatira???... may sakayan ba ngjeep na malapit sa kanila???... nagsisimba ba siya linggo-linggo???...kasama ba yung pamilya niya???... at nagdadasal ba siya bagomatulog???...in short...alam mo na nga ba???...ang mga bagay-bagay...ang mga simpleng bagay tungkol sa kanya...na nagdedetermine ng sarili niya...as in kung sino ba talaga SIYA...
pangatlo...KAYA MO BA SIYANG TANGGAPIN???...as in TANGGAPIN ng buong-buo...sa lahat ng trip niya sa buhay...sa lahat ng katopakan niya...sa lahat ng pag-iinarte at pag-dadrama niya...sa lahat ng kasalanang nagawa, ginawa, at gagawin pa lang niya...salahat ng naiisip niya... sa lahat ng sasabihin niya... sa kilos niya...sa pananamit pa pala niya... sa pagsasalita... sa pananaw niya sabuhay... sa pagtrato niya sa tao... sa lifestyle niya... sa uri ngpamilyang meron siya... sa uri ng kaibigang kasa-kasama niya... sa styleniya pagdating sa love... sa kasweetan niyang natural... sa paglalambingniya... sa tawa niyang pagkalakas-lakas... sa manners niya... sa bisyoniya kung meron man... sa mga pang-aasar niya sayo... sa style niyapagdating sa pagsolve ng problema... sa problemang maaari ka ringmasama...
pang-apat...KAYA MO BANG MAGING TOTOO???...kaya mo bang makita yung sarili mo...na kasama pa rin siya ha...sa isang sitwasyong pag naisip mo eh...mapapaiyak ka na lang sa sakit...nang dahil din sa kanya???...kaya mo bang magmukhang tanga...as in umiyak ng dahil sa kababawan...ibuhos ang mga nararamdaman mo...kahit na puro kababawan nga lang naman...as in kahit sa harapan niya???...kaya mo bang maging barubal pag kasama mo siya???...yung tipo bang wala ka ng pakielam...mawala man ang manners mo...na wala ka naman talaga...in short...KAYA MO BANG MAGING IKAW KAPAG KASAMA MO NA SIYA???...yung tipong hindi ka nahihiyang ipakita kung sino katalaga...dahil alam mong...HINDI MO LANG SIYA TANGGAP...TANGGAP KA RIN NIYA...BUONG-BUO RIN...MGA TAO!!!...tama na kasi ang trip...tama na ang pagmamadali...oo masarap ngang mainvolve sa isang tao...pero diba mas masarap yun...LALO NA KUNG ALAM MONG TOTOO YUNG NARARAMDAMAN MO....kaya dapat, hinde tayo nagpapabulag sa akala nating LOVE....mag antay na lang tayo....wag natin unahan....for all we know, nde pa pala cya ang para sa atin......pero pag nasagot mo lahat ng nasa taas....baka nga mahal mo na cya...
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
I am an EX
Im An Ex... I know that it's stupid -- and silly -- to sound as if my whole life revolved around being somebody's ex-girlfriend. But I can't help it... That title packs a pretty strong punch. I am now an official member of the "loved-and-lost" club. And while it's a title I don't exactly want, I have to admit that it does say some things about me. I am an ex. I once loved someone who loved me back (?). But he didn't want to stay... So I had to let him go. I cried. A lot. I spent countless nights wondering what went wrong, asking what's wr0ng with me even if people keep on saying that I'm such a superfox (do you know how much that can be damaging to one's ego???-pretty pathetic ewww) muffling my sobs with my pillows so my parents wouldn't suspect that something was amiss. I'd reminisce about our happy times, then break down when I'd realize that he was no longer mine. I analyzed every single detail of our breakup. I wrote long e-mails and text messages to my closest friends. I talked endlessly about my situation. I spent my nights in tearful telephone conversations and my days in daydreams where we'd end up in each other's arms again. Sometimes he was still my angel, still my knight in shining armor who I'd do anything for just to have back. But sometimes, I saw him as the devil incarnate who broke my heart in the worst possible way, and who deserved to be horsewhipped at the very least. I tried to show the world that I was OK. That I was over him. That it was fine just being back to starngers. I didn't go around with a big "X" on my forehead, nor did I go around with puffy eyes and a tissue box. I tried to live my life as I knew it before I met him. People thought that I was doing great. They heard me laugh and they saw me smile; I seemed happy, they said; and I told myself that I was. But in the solace of my room, where I tried to organize my thoughts and sort out my feelings, I had to admit to myself that I wasn't truly happy (?). Because I was still yearning for someone, and my heart still ached for something that could not be.
Surprisingly, things have gotten better. I've changed. Somewhere along the way, I realized that he wasn't the only one out there for me. I also realized that there were valid, powerful reasons why we split up. And I've become stronger, older, wiser. He's changed as well -- when I look at him (technically i don't see him face to face just in my thoughts lol), sometimes I still see the boy I fell in love with. Sometimes I think that he's the same person... he still has the same goofy smile and mischievous charm that I fell for, and I like to believe that the rest of him is unchanged as well. But then I take a closer look and I realize that he HAS changed... that I don't know him anymore, not really... not enough to love and care for him as I once did.
I am an ex.
I've loved and lost. I've been through hell and back..and forth... and back and forth and back and forth and back and forth for gazilion times until I smacked my head and realized that the journey is RESTLESS, TRIP GOING NOWHERE.
I've cried tears for the things that were and that could have been.
I've wrestled with intense feelings of love and hate, of jealousy, of frustration.
I've pondered over and over on the thought that I did endure for so many years sleeping with my enemy.
I've simultaneously taken down and brought up my pride.
I've tried to rebuild my world without the person whom it used to revolve around. I've tried to save myself from the depths of depression and self-pity, and when I couldn't do that, I turned to God for help.
I really don't know when the bitterness and pain will depart my heart...
Maybe someday... then again, maybe not.
Surprisingly, things have gotten better. I've changed. Somewhere along the way, I realized that he wasn't the only one out there for me. I also realized that there were valid, powerful reasons why we split up. And I've become stronger, older, wiser. He's changed as well -- when I look at him (technically i don't see him face to face just in my thoughts lol), sometimes I still see the boy I fell in love with. Sometimes I think that he's the same person... he still has the same goofy smile and mischievous charm that I fell for, and I like to believe that the rest of him is unchanged as well. But then I take a closer look and I realize that he HAS changed... that I don't know him anymore, not really... not enough to love and care for him as I once did.
I am an ex.
I've loved and lost. I've been through hell and back..and forth... and back and forth and back and forth and back and forth for gazilion times until I smacked my head and realized that the journey is RESTLESS, TRIP GOING NOWHERE.
I've cried tears for the things that were and that could have been.
I've wrestled with intense feelings of love and hate, of jealousy, of frustration.
I've pondered over and over on the thought that I did endure for so many years sleeping with my enemy.
I've simultaneously taken down and brought up my pride.
I've tried to rebuild my world without the person whom it used to revolve around. I've tried to save myself from the depths of depression and self-pity, and when I couldn't do that, I turned to God for help.
I really don't know when the bitterness and pain will depart my heart...
Maybe someday... then again, maybe not.
RandOm Pics that make me smile ;)
***I really d0n't kn0w why but whenever I l0ok at these pictures I can' help but smile...hehe
Maybe because its freakin cutie pat0otieee 0r as simple as it represent moi, I c0llected these ever since I started br0wsing the net in the office, these are the few which caught my attention big time.
Monday, November 3, 2008
Pseudo-relationship
Bato-bato sa langit..ang tamaan wag magagalit!!! :)
Parang Kayo, Pero Hindi.
She is a 24-year old copywriter. He is an architect.
They met and became lovers in college. They broke up last year but
remained to be "friends."
They send sweet text messages and he calls her often to make sure
she's okay. They still date. They still have sex.
They don't see anyone else. It is obvious that they still love each
other but when asked about their situation, she doesn't
know the real score. Even
her friends are in the dark. "Parang sila, pero hindi."
She works in a telecom. He is reviewing for the board. They are in
the same barkada. They talk on the phone till 4 am . He gives
her chocolates, flowers and CDs even when there is no occasion. Their
friends are suspecting something. Bakit sila nagsosolo kapag may
overnight inuman? Why does he hold her close on the dance floor? Bakit sila
magkaholding hands lagi?
Sila kaya?
"He hasn't admitted anything," she rants. "But I let him hug and kiss me.
Parang kami, pero hindi."
They work together in an ad agency. After office, they would watch
movie, have dinner and stroll at Glorietta. She gave him Harry Potter books
for his birthday in exchange for posing as her boyfriend to make an ex
jealous. They made out during the company outing in Subic and
never talked about it. He said "I love you" once but she wasn't sure if she
heard hi m correctly because they were both drunk then. But one thing
she is sure of is her feelings for him. She likes him. And she's
assuming that with what he's doing to her and with her, he likes her, too.
There's just one hitch: he has a girlfriend!
She is a 28-year-old virgin. He's a 35-year-old bachelor. Both mountaineers,
they became close during their climbs. After a few dates in posh
restaurants, he brings her to his condo where they would make out.
They have been doing this for months. She wants to believe
that "sila na" but then she's not really sure about it. "We don't talk about
it but it doesn't really matter," she'd tell her friends. "What's
important is I am enjoying this -- whatever it is."
The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. Others call it MU or mutual
understanding. Pseudo-relationship s. Pseudo- boyfriends.
Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase
where the persons involved are more than friends, but not
quite lovers.
Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala. One or both of
you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi. You just let your
gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi
kayo mag-dyowa.
Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.
This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for
different reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still
love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a
reason. A nd for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna
magkabalikan.
It can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong
nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso
kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna.
Testing lang.
Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo --usually
the guy --may ka-relasyon na. Kaya habang hindi pa siya
nakikipag-break doon sa girl (sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di
naman niya ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya
nangagaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo."
This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung
naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro."
Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala
talagang kasiguraduhan.
So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi
naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan?
Iba't ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang.
Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa w ala" or puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom. "
Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa
kunwa-kunwarian.
For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think
that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship
at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig" feeling.
Aminado naman ako na once upon a time, may mga pseudo-relationship s
din ako. No commitments involved. For the simplest reason
that they couldn't commit, because they were either committed to someone
else, or that they weren't ready to commit.
My rationalization, "okay na iyun, kesa wala."
Ang habol ko lang naman, iyong kilig feeling. Iyong merong nagtatanong kung
kumusta araw ko. Iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach outing. Iyong kapag
tumunog ang cellphone, mapapangiti na ako dahil alam
kong galing sa kanya ang message. Iyong merong laging kasama. Habang
wala pa ang the real thing, puwede na itong pagtiyagaan.
But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship , the
emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up, ang babae
lagi ang lugi.
Una, you can't ask him to commit. Since it's not really a relationship, you
can't demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga
ba magpasundo ng hatinggabi? You will always be uncertain about your
role in his life. You can't expect him to be always there with you. And if
you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself.
Ano ka ba niya para magselos?
Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him?
You can't be sure if he feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang
na mahal ka rin niya.
Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can't.
Because you're not sure if he'll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang.
This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship.
Or if there is a relationship at all.
Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much?
What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn't?
What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys,
only to find out that he is seeing other girls?
Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationship s, it is fleeting. When a
disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would
be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo
alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship . Wala kang
pinanghahawakan.
Kasi sa pseudo-relationship , there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me,"
hindi "us."
Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi
eh. Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo- relationship, hindi mo
maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And
you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only
to find out eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with
somebody else.
Ang hirap, ano? You agreed to this kind of set up for fun and then
you'd end up hurting yourself in the process.
Pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh.
Puwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences.
But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the
process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live
the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationship s and wait for the real thing.
When I was younger and in a pseudo-relationship with an unavailable
guy, a friend told me, "Sige, kung ayaw mong magpapigil, bahala ka.
Magpakasaya ka.
Pero huwag kang iiyak-iyak pagkatapos, dahil tatadyakan kita."
Ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo.
Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence.
Dahil ang "parang kayo pero hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo.
Usually, hanggang doon lang siya ...
almost, but not quite.
Advices synonym0us to the topic above:
ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it
cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As
you get older, their
conversational skills will be as important as any
other.
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you
have or sleep all you
want.
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person
in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you
get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People
who don't have dreams
don't have much.
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might
get hurt but it's the
only
way to live life completely.
TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name
calling.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question
you don't want to answer,
smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great
achievements involve
great
risk.
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear
someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect
for self; Respect for
others;
and Responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great
friendship.
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a
mistake, take immediate steps
to correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The
caller will hear it in
your
voice.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
Parang Kayo, Pero Hindi.
She is a 24-year old copywriter. He is an architect.
They met and became lovers in college. They broke up last year but
remained to be "friends."
They send sweet text messages and he calls her often to make sure
she's okay. They still date. They still have sex.
They don't see anyone else. It is obvious that they still love each
other but when asked about their situation, she doesn't
know the real score. Even
her friends are in the dark. "Parang sila, pero hindi."
She works in a telecom. He is reviewing for the board. They are in
the same barkada. They talk on the phone till 4 am . He gives
her chocolates, flowers and CDs even when there is no occasion. Their
friends are suspecting something. Bakit sila nagsosolo kapag may
overnight inuman? Why does he hold her close on the dance floor? Bakit sila
magkaholding hands lagi?
Sila kaya?
"He hasn't admitted anything," she rants. "But I let him hug and kiss me.
Parang kami, pero hindi."
They work together in an ad agency. After office, they would watch
movie, have dinner and stroll at Glorietta. She gave him Harry Potter books
for his birthday in exchange for posing as her boyfriend to make an ex
jealous. They made out during the company outing in Subic and
never talked about it. He said "I love you" once but she wasn't sure if she
heard hi m correctly because they were both drunk then. But one thing
she is sure of is her feelings for him. She likes him. And she's
assuming that with what he's doing to her and with her, he likes her, too.
There's just one hitch: he has a girlfriend!
She is a 28-year-old virgin. He's a 35-year-old bachelor. Both mountaineers,
they became close during their climbs. After a few dates in posh
restaurants, he brings her to his condo where they would make out.
They have been doing this for months. She wants to believe
that "sila na" but then she's not really sure about it. "We don't talk about
it but it doesn't really matter," she'd tell her friends. "What's
important is I am enjoying this -- whatever it is."
The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. Others call it MU or mutual
understanding. Pseudo-relationship s. Pseudo- boyfriends.
Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase
where the persons involved are more than friends, but not
quite lovers.
Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala. One or both of
you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi. You just let your
gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi
kayo mag-dyowa.
Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.
This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for
different reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still
love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a
reason. A nd for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna
magkabalikan.
It can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong
nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso
kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna.
Testing lang.
Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo --usually
the guy --may ka-relasyon na. Kaya habang hindi pa siya
nakikipag-break doon sa girl (sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di
naman niya ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya
nangagaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo."
This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung
naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro."
Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala
talagang kasiguraduhan.
So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi
naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan?
Iba't ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang.
Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa w ala" or puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom. "
Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa
kunwa-kunwarian.
For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think
that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship
at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig" feeling.
Aminado naman ako na once upon a time, may mga pseudo-relationship s
din ako. No commitments involved. For the simplest reason
that they couldn't commit, because they were either committed to someone
else, or that they weren't ready to commit.
My rationalization, "okay na iyun, kesa wala."
Ang habol ko lang naman, iyong kilig feeling. Iyong merong nagtatanong kung
kumusta araw ko. Iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach outing. Iyong kapag
tumunog ang cellphone, mapapangiti na ako dahil alam
kong galing sa kanya ang message. Iyong merong laging kasama. Habang
wala pa ang the real thing, puwede na itong pagtiyagaan.
But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship , the
emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up, ang babae
lagi ang lugi.
Una, you can't ask him to commit. Since it's not really a relationship, you
can't demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga
ba magpasundo ng hatinggabi? You will always be uncertain about your
role in his life. You can't expect him to be always there with you. And if
you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself.
Ano ka ba niya para magselos?
Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him?
You can't be sure if he feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang
na mahal ka rin niya.
Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can't.
Because you're not sure if he'll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang.
This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship.
Or if there is a relationship at all.
Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much?
What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn't?
What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys,
only to find out that he is seeing other girls?
Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationship s, it is fleeting. When a
disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would
be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo
alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship . Wala kang
pinanghahawakan.
Kasi sa pseudo-relationship , there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me,"
hindi "us."
Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi
eh. Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo- relationship, hindi mo
maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And
you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only
to find out eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with
somebody else.
Ang hirap, ano? You agreed to this kind of set up for fun and then
you'd end up hurting yourself in the process.
Pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh.
Puwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences.
But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the
process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live
the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationship s and wait for the real thing.
When I was younger and in a pseudo-relationship with an unavailable
guy, a friend told me, "Sige, kung ayaw mong magpapigil, bahala ka.
Magpakasaya ka.
Pero huwag kang iiyak-iyak pagkatapos, dahil tatadyakan kita."
Ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo.
Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence.
Dahil ang "parang kayo pero hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo.
Usually, hanggang doon lang siya ...
almost, but not quite.
Advices synonym0us to the topic above:
ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it
cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As
you get older, their
conversational skills will be as important as any
other.
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you
have or sleep all you
want.
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person
in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you
get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People
who don't have dreams
don't have much.
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might
get hurt but it's the
only
way to live life completely.
TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name
calling.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question
you don't want to answer,
smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great
achievements involve
great
risk.
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear
someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect
for self; Respect for
others;
and Responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great
friendship.
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a
mistake, take immediate steps
to correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The
caller will hear it in
your
voice.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
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