Prioritizing the mind
The You of the past is not the You of today.
The You of tomorrow is whomever you want it to be.
It's not the first of anything that matters, it's the last.

He's just not that into you...

FYI guys… this and the blog prior to this is an inspiration writing for a friend- not mine; may I say that I’m very happy and complete

Cut your losses and don’t waste your time . Why stay in some weird dating limbo when you can move on to what will surely be better territory? Don’t want to hear it? Fine. Here’s the answer you’re looking for, "Hang in there, baby. He’s not the loser everybody’s telling you he is. If you wait and keep your mouth shut and call at exactly the right time and anticipate his moods and have no expectations about communication or your own sexual needs, you can have him!" But please don’t be surprised if he dumps you or continues to drag you through a completely unsatisfying relationship.

He is a man made up entirely of your excuses. And the minute you stop making excuses for him, he will completely disappear from your life.

Men, for the most part, like to pursue women. We (men) like not knowing if we can catch you. We feel rewarded when we do.

Don’t let the "honeys" and the "babys" fool you. His sweet nothings are exactly that. They are much easier to say than "I’m just not that into you." Remember, actions speak louder than, "There’s no cell reception where I am right now."

Calling when you say you’re going to call is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can’t lay this one stupid brick down, you ain’t never gonna have a house, baby. And it’s cold outside.

He will always be able to play the "friend" card on you. He only has to be responsible for the expectations of a friend, rather than the the far greater expectations of a boyfriend. He’s got the ultimate situation: a great friend with all the benefits of a girlfriend, whom he can see or not see whenever he wants to. He may be one of your closest friends, but I’m sorry to say … as a boyfriend, he’s just not that into you.

Beware of the word "friend". It can often be used by men or the women that love them to excuse the most unfriendly behavior. Personally, when I’m picking friends, I like the ones who don’t make me cry myself to sleep.

I don’t want to be "sort of dating" someone. I don’t want to be "kinda hanging out" with someone. I don’t want to spend a lot of energy suppressing my feelings so I appear uninvolved. I want to be involved. I want to be sleeping with someone I know I’ll see again because they’ve already demonstarted to me that they’re trustworthy and honorable — and into me.

You can’t blame a guy for having feelings. You love someone, you break up, you still have feeling. Thank God for that really. But having feelings don’t mean you have to have sex.

Every man you have ever dated who has said he doesn’t want to get married or doesn’t believe in marriage, or has "issues" with marriage, will … rest assured … someday be married. It just will never be with you.

Everyone wants to be loved and needed, particularly by the person who just broke up with us. I understand. What could be better than hearing from the man who just told you he didn’t want you in his life anymore … his sad, wistful, "I miss you so much" voice on the other end of the phone? It’s validating. It’s exciting. It’s irresistible. But resist you must.

My friends all say I should stop talking to him, but I think he misses me, and I like that. I miss him. I feel if I stay in touch with him, it will remind him of how great I am, and eventually he will realize that we should be together again.

A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves. If he’s not calling you to tell you he loves you and wants you back, it should only be because he’s showing up at your new residence to do it in person … if he’s not doing any of that, he may love you, he may miss you, but ultimately he’s just not that into you. Stop taking his calls and let him know what it’s like to live without you.

Don’t be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You’re deeply missable. However, he’s still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you.

I was seeing a guy for about a month. He broke up with me, saying that he didn’t feel like it could be something serious. I understood and took it well. He wanted to know if we could still hang out as friends. I said sure. Now we get together and go out and then come back to his place and have sex, just like we did before. (But now, we’re "broken up.") He’s really, really cute and I love having sex with him. I also think he must like me if he can’t stop being around me. And I think it’s kinda cool — all pressure’s off and we’re having a great time together. I’ve decided that I think it’s fine and I’m not going to call his attention for the fact that we’re actually dating. Except for the fact that we broke up.

This guy is brilliant. He goes out with you, dates you, breaks up with you, then continues to sleep with you, which basically absolves him of all responsibility toward your feelings. After all, you’re not going out anymore. It’s genius! It’s diabolical! He should be writing a book! In fact, I bet this guy could get his own little cult going if he wanted to. And let me guess, you’d be happy to sign up for that as well. For the record, this guy doesn’t "like you so much that he can’t stop being around you." Because here’s what guys don’t do if they can’t live without you: they don’t break up with you. This guy is seriously not into you, it’s crazy. The only way you’re going to figure out how into you you are … is how fast you get rid of him.

It’s very tempting when you really want to be with someone to settle for much, much less — even a vague pathetic facsimile of less — than you would have ever imagined. Remember always what you set out to get and please don’t settle for less. These guys exist because there are a lot of women out there who allow them to.

Hey girl. Put down the penis, put your clothes back on, and go directly to your best friend’s house. Do not find an excuse to stay. Do not think that because of all the crazy hotness of it all, it now means that you’re meant to be together. Yes, break up sex does seem like a good idea, because hey, it’s nice to have sex with someone you have these dramatic feelings about. It makes it all, well, dramatic. But now you know. It confuses everything and makes you separate sex and emotions. So now you don’t ever have to make that mistake again. Got it? He’s into the very-bad-idea-that-masquerades-as-a-good-idea, breakup sex. Over and out.

Don’t underestimate the power of sex, even with someone you’ve been doing it with for a very long time. Especially with someone you’ve been doing it with for a very long time. Breaking up means not seeing them again, which also implies not seeing them naked again. It might be tempting to forget this pearl of wisdom, but just remember, it’s still called breakup sex. No one has yet to rename it oh-my-god-the-sex-was-so-good-we-got-back-together-again-and-lived-happily-ever-after sex.

He’s sniffing for something better, and when he doesn’t find it, he gets lonely and comes "home." It’s not that he’s so into you. It’s that he’s so not into being alone. Don’t give him the chance to break up with you for the fourth time. (Even the idea of it sounds beneath you, doesn’t it?) Reset your breakup maximum to one and move on.

Deciding to get back together with someone is a complicated and difficult decision. Just remember that the person you are getting back together with is the same person who, not long before, looked you in your beautiful face, took full stock of you and all your qualities, and told you that he was no longer in need of your company.

Don’t confuse being classy with being a doormat. Classy is walking away with your head held high, graciously, and with all dignity. Being a doormat is offering to drive him to the dentist for his root canal.

Breakups, I’ve heard, are supposed to be just that. Breaks. Hard, clean breaks. No talking, no seeing, no touching … keep your hands to yourself. The relationship is over. Half the people I know move after a huge breakup, and frankly that makes perfect sense to me. You’re not supposed to sleep with the guy who just broke your heart a week ago. Fine. Next time I’m in this situation I’ll cry. Stay in bed and wail. Go to the gym if I can. Call all my friends and burden them with my misery. Sleep too much. Cry some more. See my therapist more often. Get a puppy. Do whatever I have to so eventually I can move on.

Breakup sex still means you’re broken up.

Cut him off. Let him miss you.

He doesn’t need to be reminded that you’re great.

There’s a guy out there who’s going to be really happy that you didn’t get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend.

The reason it’s so painful when someone disappears is you have to face the fact that the person you loved had probably left you a long time before he grabbed his coat and scrammed. The part part is realizing that he was lying to you, in some way, before the moment of vanishing.

Don’t give him the chance to reject you again.

No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing.

Being lonely … being alone … for many people … sucks. I get it, I get it, I get it. But still I have to say that yes, my belief is that being with somebody who makes you feel shitty or doesn’t honor the person you are is worse.

Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.

You deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time.

GOSSIP

My name is Gossip. I have no respect for justice. I maim without killing. I break hearts and ruin lives. I am cunning, malicious and gather strength with age. The more I am quoted, the more I am believed. I flourish at every level of society. My victims are helpless. They cannot protect themselves against me because I have no name and no face. To track me down is impossible. The harder you try, the more elusive I become. I am nobody’s friend. Once I tarnish a reputation, it is never the same. I topple governments and wreck marriages. I ruin careers and cause sleepless nights, heartaches and indigestion. I spawn suspicion and generate grief. I make innocent people cry in their pillows. Even my name hisses. I am called Gossip. Office gossip - shop gossip - party gossip - telephone gossip. I make headlines and headaches. Remember, before you repeat a story, ask yourself: is it true? Is it fair? Is it necessary? If not, do not repeat it. Keep quiet! Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, shallow mind discuss people.

GOSSIP IS FOR FOOLISH PEOPLE…………………..

–Ann Landers

The ONE..

At this moment there are 6,470,818,671 people in the world. Some are running scared. Some are coming home. Some tell lies to make it through the day. Others are just not facing the truth. Some are evil men, at war with good. And some are good, struggling with evil. Six billion people in the world, six billion souls. And sometimes…all you need is NONE.

Anime love

Useless

Most important relationship

"The most important relationship that you have in your life is your relationship with yourself" -The City

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"Ang hirap sayo meron ka nito, pero mahina ka dito"

I promise myself...

Confessions

Blair: Forgive me, Father, for I have sinned. It's been... a while since my last confession.

Priest: What troubles you, my child?

Blair: [sighs] After being broken up with my boyfriend for exactly twenty minutes, I succumbed to inebriation, performed at a Speak-Easy, and surrendered my virtue to a self-absorbed ass. The only good news is that he's a total pig who'll act like it never happened, thank God.

Priest: Ahem.

Blair: Sorry. Truthfully, I'm not even Catholic.

Priest: [sarcastically] You don't say?

Blair: But losing my virginity to Chuck Bass? None of my friends will ever understand. I'm ready for my punishment. Whatever you and God think is fair. Flogging, fasting, putting that thing with the teeth around my thigh like Silas.

Priest: How about some food for thought instead? Don't drink, keep your clothes on, try avoiding those who might cause you to stray.

Blair: Oh, I plan to. Thank you, Father. That was very good advice.[gets up but comes back]Blair: You don't grant birthday wishes, do you?

Priest: I'm a priest, not a genie.

Blair: Well, the next time you talk to Him, would you ask Him to send my boyfriend back to me?

"You have a better life if you wear impressive
clothes" -Vivienne Westwood

Never too late...

"What has happened before has brought you to where you are. Yet the past has no control over where you can go from here.Your past history does not create your future. The choices you make right now are what create the substance of that future.Learn from your mistakes, but do not agonize over them. There is nothing you can do to change the fact that they happened, yet there is much you can do to move positively beyond them.When you dwell on the past it holds you prisoner. When you let it go, that allows you to go anywhere you now choose.People change, circumstances change, and you can change too. With each moment comes the opportunity to shake off the old assumptions and limitations, to give new purpose and meaning to life.Give new energy, new effort, new commitment and determination to this day that you have the good fortune to be living. See the bright future that can be, and you will make it so."-
- Ralph Marston

"Rather than asking myself whether I am happy or not, a more helpfulquestion is, 'How can I become happier."... We need to recognize thathappiness is an unlimited resource and then focus on ways in which wecan attain more of it. Becoming happier is a lifelong pursuit."
-- Tal Ben-Shahar

Sometimes, I am called upon to accept unpleasant realities. I may wish to avoid disappointments, but I find the only way to serenity is to become willing to accept the things I cannot change. Acceptance gives me choices." -- Courage to Change.

"The most successful people are those who are good at Plan B." -- James Yorke, as quoted by

What's the quickest way out of a negative attitude? Have something ready and waiting that you can immediately and genuinely appreciate."How do you find the hidden value in any situation? Look for something to truly appreciate."When you seek to find things to appreciate, what you'll discover are hidden treasures upon which you can build great value. Look for what you can appreciate, and you'll find positive, powerful tools that will pull you forward.
"Get in the habit of starting each day by thinking of something for which you can be thankful. Then, whenever you catch yourself falling into a negative thought pattern, you'll already have something positive toward which you can redirect your thoughts."Each time you meet a new person, make it a point to find something, at the very outset of the relationship, that you can sincerely appreciate. Every time you find yourself in a new place or situation, look first for what you can appreciate about it."Find something to appreciate, and your effectiveness will increase dramatically. Find something to appreciate, and you'll uncover real treasure"."Continuous effort -- not strength or intelligence -- is the key to unlocking our potential."-- Liane Cordes

"When you put conditions on enjoyment, it turns into just another chore. Let go, and sincerely enjoy the miracle that is your life as it comes to you in each moment. If you become overly attached to specific results, you set yourself up for disappointment and disillusionment. Be ambitious, yet do not be your ambition"... "Today can just be marvelous..........marvelous I say. All I have to do is jump into it with a grateful heart and some willingness to do the work. Hey.....what a coincidence...I have BOTH."-- Pam,

"To find your own way is to follow your bliss. This involves analysis, watching yourself and seeing where real deep bliss is--not the quick little excitement, but the real deep, life-filling bliss". Your thoughts are what frighten you. Choose to change them, and the fear is gone. Your thoughts are what cause you to be frustrated, angry, disappointed, impatient and uncomfortable. And your thoughts can also take you far away from all those things. For your thoughts can transform anger into forgiveness, disappointment into determination, discomfort into inspiration, and fear into love. The choice is always yours". Change your thoughts and change your world!"-- Norman Vincent Peale

"Don't accept rides from strange men, and remember that all men are strange".When it is all too much, when the news is so bad meditation itself feels useless, and a single life feels too small a stone to offer on the altar of peace, find a human sunrise. Find those people who are committed to changing our scary reality. Human sunrises are happening all over the earth, at every moment. People gathering, people working to change the intolerable, people coming in their robes and sandals or in their rags and bare feet, and they are singing, or not, and they are chanting, or not. But they are working to bring peace, light, compassion to the infinitely frightening downhill slide of human life"."Nothing fixes a thing so intensely in the memory as the wish to forget it".-- Michel de Montaigne

If you want an average successful life, it doesn't take much planning. Just stay out of trouble, go to school, and apply for jobs you might like. But if you want something extraordinary, you have two paths:1. Become the best at one specific thing.2. Become very good (top 25%) at two or more things.The first strategy is difficult to the point of near impossibility. Few people will ever play in the NBA or make a platinum album. I don't recommend anyone even try.The second strategy is fairly easy. Everyone has at least a few areas in which they could be in the top 25% with some effort. In my case, I can draw better than most people, but I'm hardly an artist. And I'm not any funnier than the average standup comedian who never makes it big, but I'm funnier than most people. The magic is that few people can draw well and write jokes. It's the combination of the two that makes what I do so rare. And when you add in my business background, suddenly I had a topic that few cartoonists could hope to understand without living it.I always advise young people to become good public speakers (top 25%). Anyone can do it with practice. If you add that talent to any other, suddenly you're the boss of the people who have only one skill. Or get a degree in business on top of your engineering degree, law degree, medical degree, science degree, or whatever. Suddenly you're in charge, or maybe you're starting your own company using your combined knowledge.Capitalism rewards things that are both rare and valuable. You make yourself rare by combining two or more "pretty goods" until no one else has your mix. I didn't spend much time with the script supervisor, but it was obvious that her verbal/writing skills were in the top tier as well as her people skills. I'm guessing she also has a high attention to detail, and perhaps a few other skills in the mix. Probably none of those skills are best in the world, but together they make a strong package. Apparently she's been in high demand for decades.At least one of the skills in your mixture should involve communication, either written or verbal. And it could be as simple as learning how to sell more effectively than 75% of the world. That's one. Now add to that whatever your passion is, and you have two, because that's the thing you'll easily put enough energy into to reach the top 25%. If you have an aptitude for a third skill, perhaps business or public speaking, develop that too. It sounds like generic advice, but you'd be hard pressed to find any successful person who didn't have about three skills in the top 25%.What are your three?""A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loves himself."-- Josh Billings

I was a songwriter, I was struggling, and I loved it. I wanted to be the greatest songwriter. I was writing about everything -- everything I saw. But I was not making money, and I finally agreed with everyone I ever talked to who knew me, who said, ''Boy, you need to get a job -- a real one.'' So I got a job on the Ford assembly line. And every day I watched how a bare metal frame rolling down the line would come off the other end a spanking brand-new car. Wow, I thought. What a great idea. Maybe I can do the same thing with my music -- create a place where a kid off the street can walk in one door an unknown and come out another door a star. That little thought that came to me while running up and down that assembly line at Ford Motor Company became a reality you now know as Motown."-- Berry Gordy

There are lots of temptations and there are plenty of excuses. Keep in mind, though, that you are in control of you... To reach the destination you have chosen, you must follow the path that will take you there. And while diversions and distractions will constantly come along, remember that you are in control of you... Your thoughts, your words and your actions are precisely the ones you choose. They can take you anywhere you would like to go... Though many things are out of your control, you are always in control of you. You can respond, you can adjust, you can persist and you can move in the direction of your dreams, no matter what the outside factors may be. You are in control of you. Your decisions in each and every moment determine the quality of life that you live. It is a heavy responsibility and a magnificent opportunity. You are in control of you, and you will always go right where your actions take you."-- Ralph Marston

"If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin byrealizing that you are the author and every day you have the opportunityto write a new page."Part of noticing intuitive signs, signals, and those gentle nudges is becoming more conscious of what you're doing in your everyday life. This week, if you're having a cup of tea, then just drink your tea. If you're enjoying a meal, then just eat your meal. If you're walking, just walk. Appreciate, focus, and be in the moment. By doing so, you'll remain in the powerful present, and that way, your intuition has a better chance of getting your attention".-- John Holland

"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending".-- Carl Bard

"It is never too late -- in fiction or in life -- to revise."-- Nancy Thayer

Leave you alone by Girlicious

You Keep Trippin'I feel like I keep slippin' I don't wanna be bitchin'

I think I might as well Leave you alone

Get Steppin'What is it you ain't gettin'

And I don't know where you're headed

But yo I might as wellLeave you alone

I'm going out of my mind and And You keep tellin' me lies and I'm such a fool for thinkin' you were all mine

My head's all twisted and it's driving me crazy

You Keep Trippin' I feel like I keep slippin'

I don't wanna be bitchin'

I think I might as well Leave you alone Get Steppin'

What is it you ain't gettin'And I don't know
where you're headed But yo I might as well Leave you alone

Confessions of a Shopaholic...for the nth time...

A man will never love you or treat you as well as a store.

If a man doesn't fit, you can't exchange him seven days later for a gorgeous
cashmere sweater. And a store always smells good.

A store can awaken a lust for
things you never even knew you needed.

And when your fingers first grasp those
shiny, new bags... oh yes... oh yes!

...Oh yes...This is sOooo effin' true.

Luvish IcOns Pt. 3

Luvish IcOns Pt. 2

Luvish IcOns

this is meeeee...........

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One of the worst feelings in the world is having to doubt something you thought was unquestionable.

ICONS ^sOo GWEN^