On Broken Hearts and Soulmates

“What’s got you all wadded up?” he drawls, toothpick in mouth, as usual.
“Don’t ask,” I say, but then I start talking and tell him every bit of it, concluding with, “And worst of all, I can’t stop obsessing over David. I thought I was over him, but it’s all coming up again.”
He says, “Give it another six months, you’ll feel better.”
“I’ve already given it twelve months, Richard.”
“Then give it six more. Just keep throwin’ six months at it till it goes away. Stuff like this takes time.”
I exhale hotly through my nose, bull-like.
“Groceries,” Richard says, “listen to me. Someday you’re gonna look back on this moment of your life as such a sweet time of grieving. You’ll see that you were in mourning and your heart was broken, but your life was changing and you were in the best possible place in the world for it — in a beautiful place of worship, surrounded by grace. Take this time, every minute of it. Let things work themselves out here in India.”
“But I really loved him.”
“Big deal. So you fell in love with someone. Don’t you see what happened? The guy touched a place in your heart deeper than you thought you were capable of reaching. I mean you got zapped, kiddo. But that love you felt, that’s just the beginning. You just got a taste of love. That’s just limited little rinky-dink mortal love. Wait till you see how much more deeply you can love than that. Heck, Groceries — you have the capacity to someday love the whole world. It’s your destiny. Don’t laugh.”
“I’m not laughing.” I was actually crying. “And please don’t laugh at me now, but I think the reason it’s so hard for me to get over this guy is because I seriously believed David was my soul mate.”
“He probably was. Your problem is you don’t understand what that word means. People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it. Your problem is, you just can’t let this one go. It’s over, Groceries. David’s purpose was to shake you up, drive you out of that marriage that you needed to leave, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light could get in, make you desperate and out of control that you had to transform your life , then introduce you to your spiritual master and beat it. That was his job, and he did great, but now it’s over. Problem is, you can’t accept that this relationship had a real short shelf life. You’re like a dog at the dump, baby — you’re just lickin’ at an empty tin can, trying to get more nutrition out of it. And if you’re not careful, that can’s gonna get stuck on your snout forever and make your life miserable. So drop it.”
“But I love him.”
“So love him.”
“But I miss him.”
“So miss him. Send him some love and light every time you think about him, and then drop it. You’re afraid to let go of the last bits of David because then you’ll really be alone, and Liz Gilbert is scared to eath of what will happen if she’s really alone. But here’s what you gotta understand, Groceries. If you clear out all that space in your mind that you’re using right now to obsess about this guy, you’ll have a vacuum there, an open spot — a doorway. And guess what the universe will do with that doorway? It will rush in — God will rush in — and fill you with more love than you ever dreamed. So stop using David to block that door. Let it go.“

- Eat, Pray, Love: A Woman’s Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia by Elizabeth Gilbert, pp. 197-199

***This entry really caught my attention... Lovely isn't it?
I'm sure al0t of peeps can relate to this...
Majority of us are in a rush to move on from an awful heartbreak (well yeah who wouldn't anyway) but I think that's the beauty of bitter moments, once you snap out of the poor me pity me state, that's when you'll start to realize that things happen for everyone's welfare.
My Sis Geechan and I were talking three weeks ago about love thingy and stuff and she said "Things fall apart so that better things can fall together"... *Geeeeeez one of our emo moments*
But it makes sense right? It's just that at times we get so engrossed with wallowing that we tend to overl0ok the amazing things in life. But after redeeming your sanity from the im-a-total-wreck-phase that's when you start to get a better vision of what's happening in your life.
Being alone for awhile and thinking about how to fill up your time can be scary but it's not that bad as well... It's actually the best time to get in touch with yourself and discover things, not to mention the gazilion acquaintances that you'll be making while you're in this STATUS *wink*
Thanks to all my friends who have been there for me throughout my darkest days *Geechan, Myla Dory, LA Alunday, Mitch, Hanaliya, Hazel, Fits, LA Bigbow, Mascots Boys and Gurls* for listening to all my whining, *SonSon Cheeky Boy, Myko, Jan, Mitch, Geechan, Myla, LA, Kristel, Arth, Bessy* for bearing with my voice while singing my broken heart out at ktv bars, *La Bigbow* for always bringing f0od - letting me pig out even though he calls me tarsier, *Gerard Barney* for googling, initiating threads and for the superlative pang asar which makes me laugh everytime, *Sonson Cheeky* for being a very thoughtful, caring, protective BOY-FRIEND *Ken Mapa Boy* for being incredibly nice to me, without uttering much words I know he has my back, *Mark* for bringing me every weekend at Araneta to watch PBA Games and shout my lungs out- cheer papi helterbrand and tubid and most esp for introducing me to JAMSHIPS!!! *jason break up buddy* for being on call everytime I need him *LA Alunday* for doing my everyday sanity check by making me insane *Geechan and Myla* for cuddling me when my tears go gaga like waterfalls, accompanying me to every shopping spree (which is the ultimate therapy) and for the banging clubbing and partying...=)
You guys are all blessings to me!!! Lav yah all!!!
Thank you s0o much because now I can officially say... IM SO MOVING ON!!!